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"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Iceberg
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No. They don't.sarah00 said:
And frankly, I'm not even sure he liked you. The only thing you're going on is how he "stared at you". Which, could be completely in your imagination. If he asked you out, then I can say that he definitely liked you. But staring? Maybe he was looking at you, maybe not. Just saying - the foundation of your argument is pretty weak.
To be blunt - who cares? You wanted to date him. He doesn't want to date you. So, he serves no purpose in your life. Why worry about someone who serves no purpose in your life?
I know you're not a man, but I'm going to phrase things to you as if you were - You gotta be logical about this. You just wrote a 2-page essay about some guy who you never even kissed. Never gone on a date with. Never anything'd. Is your love life so barren that you spend so much time thinking so deeply about some guy who rejected you 2 years ago? It's time to move on.
You're trying to learn about all the emotions behind his actions. Well, the world doesn't run on emotions. It doesn't care about emotions. Summer is hot, not matter how you feel about it. Winter is cold, no matter what your emotions are. My point is - this guy had NUMEROUS chances to make a move on you and he didn't. You could worry about the billions of possible emotions that guided him to act in such a way....or you could simply say, "If he wanted me, he would have made a move. Oh well."
Emotions = "Maybe he didn't ask me about because of A, B, C, X, Y, Z reasons."
Fact = "He didn't ask me out."
Stop making things more complicated than they need to be.
Atom Smasher
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My God, did you guys actually read all that?!?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Mike32ct
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That was a very long post, so I'll just jump around based on what I remember from reading it.
First, I generally agree with Iceberg. I mean this guy had plenty of opportunities to ask you out, but he didn't.
Next, guys are usually pretty blunt when it comes to telling a girl that he only wants to be friends. I mean if he meant friends with benefits, he would have made a move on you. Since he didn't make a move, he REALLY does mean just friends. However, eventually he felt uncomfortable around you and sought to ignore you a bit. I'm not saying that's right, but that is probably what happened. Maybe he liked your friend too.
As far as him making sexual jokes with you, that is something FRIENDS do. Most guys (except for the aggressive bad boys) don't make many dirty jokes around women they are interested in for fear of turning her off. But with friends, it's open season on dirty humor.
As for him "staring" at you, I don't know what to make of it. There is no other evidence to suggest he's interested in you. When you consider body langauge, you need a MINIMUM of TWO signs to accurately read a person. One sign is ambiguous. For example, if a female raises both eyebrows at me, she's either attracted or scared of me. If she does that AND plays with her hair, ok, she is probaby attracted. But one sign is not enough to go by.
First, I generally agree with Iceberg. I mean this guy had plenty of opportunities to ask you out, but he didn't.
Next, guys are usually pretty blunt when it comes to telling a girl that he only wants to be friends. I mean if he meant friends with benefits, he would have made a move on you. Since he didn't make a move, he REALLY does mean just friends. However, eventually he felt uncomfortable around you and sought to ignore you a bit. I'm not saying that's right, but that is probably what happened. Maybe he liked your friend too.
As far as him making sexual jokes with you, that is something FRIENDS do. Most guys (except for the aggressive bad boys) don't make many dirty jokes around women they are interested in for fear of turning her off. But with friends, it's open season on dirty humor.
As for him "staring" at you, I don't know what to make of it. There is no other evidence to suggest he's interested in you. When you consider body langauge, you need a MINIMUM of TWO signs to accurately read a person. One sign is ambiguous. For example, if a female raises both eyebrows at me, she's either attracted or scared of me. If she does that AND plays with her hair, ok, she is probaby attracted. But one sign is not enough to go by.
OP is hanged up over a guy who has expressed absolutely no interest in her. you built a fantasy world around the guy for years and its inevitably falling apart. simple solution..if he ignores you, you have every right to ignore him right back! why do you fight to gain the attention of a single guy when the're hundreds of other guys. frankly this is the type of attitude which get girls abused by their ******* boyfriends in relationships. do yourself a favour and simply forget about him.
Protip: next time try not to post so much, keep it short and sweet
Protip: next time try not to post so much, keep it short and sweet
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Love's Orphan
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Wow... Concrete proof of a woman's thought process. Anyways, like the rest said: forget about the guy, it will save you some of that self esteem you have left.