"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Being honest with a friend?

LonelyGuy2k4

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I want to tell this friend that I have a crush on that I like her and that I want to go out with her sometime. However, I want her to know that it's like an actual date and not like some kind of "just friends" kind of thing. I was thinking of calling her up and just being honest and telling her that I like her and such. But I dunno how I would say it without making it too weird. Can anyone help an inexperienced person, like myself, out? Thanks.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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twizted_pro

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well lets see in my opinion I think that dateing a friend is a good yet bad idea. 1 its good because you mostlikely know everything you need to about the person, what kinda wipes out the hole point of dateing. although its kinda bad cause if you do go out an things go wrong it could mess up a friendship with that person. how ever if you really want to date the girl i think you should first find out where u stand. if the girl is a lil intrested in you then take her out on another date an then tell her how you feel. now this may not be the best advice but bare with me cause i havent had sleep for 2 an1/2 days, but it should work.
 

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Well the thing is that we aren't too close of friends. I had a crush on her for a while and I recently started to talk to her and act like a friend.
 

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o well good **** then, ok well i am guessing that you have her # so just give her a call an say, 'hey i want you to go with me to _____ an i am not taking no for an anwser" then when you finaly are on the date let her know that you like her,but dont say you have a crush on her cause that gives her the upper hand. just let her know you like her an hint to her that you would like to see more of her.
 
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