"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have a problem with gettin girls interested in me.... mostly i think because i cant get them to laugh. I think I have a good sense of humor, but cant seem to get into those light, fun conversations with them. Another thing is i have a really funny friend, so even if i do crack a good joke, he kinda overshadows me. Girls wont get with a borin guy, and i think thats how im interpreted. What should i do?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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PRACTICE!!

try to make ur friends laugh but dont over do it
... and stay calm while ur at it

try adding a lil flirting in it too when u do it with girls
 

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That's the main thing about comedy. You can't laugh yourself, because then it seems as you're trying to be funny, which isn't funny. As with all aspects of dating, if it seems you're trying to be something you're not, then it won't work.
I used to be funny as hell, then I moved, and lost my edge because of a summer of isolation.
But I am getting it back, through practice.
Just work on it, but don't lose yourself.
 

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Look up ****y & Funny

DJ Bible explains on how to be funny. Look it up there.
 

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Start living a fun lifestyle

Start living a fun lifestyle. Ask yourself man, am I have fun with my life? Am I living an inspired life and doing the things I love? Am I hanging out with positive and cool people? If your living the life, you shouldn't have any problems being funny, it's all natural.

You don't want to a clown either, a clown tries to be funny to get people's approval. The cool guy is just letting it flow, he's relax and can get into serious conversations and at the same time, crack some jokes once in a while.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Re: Start living a fun lifestyle

Originally posted by Roly
You don't want to a clown either, a clown tries to be funny to get people's approval. The cool guy is just letting it flow, he's relax and can get into serious conversations and at the same time, crack some jokes once in a while.

I know this one guy who is the coolest person I've ever met and whom everybody talks about... well, he's a total clown, but he has this aura, like he's not doing it to get people's approval. That is good, if you have a clownish personality, since you should really not change yourself.
 

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Being "funny" comes naturally. It's not necessarily something that you can learn...that is, you can't be original if you have to "learn" to be funny.
 

The Master Disaster

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There is a difference between:

Good Sense of Humor and Funny

Good Sense of Humor: Being able to laugh at everything and get jokes.

Funny: Creating jokes that everyone likes.

Which one are you?
 

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i try to entertain myself primarily

saying stuff to get reactions usually gets laughs

observing things... even if i dont say it out loud sometimes i'll laugh at my random thoughts



being funny is like 70% timing and 30% delivery
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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