"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
being funny
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
playa in trainin'
Don Juan
All of the above. It's a skill, a talent, and it can be learned.
That means that if you are trying too hard to be funny, then it really shows. Can you be taught? Well, to an extant. It's really hard though, if you don't have comedic timing or are not a natural. Some comedians can't write funny, but when givin funny, they can deliever it like clock work.
It sort of depends. But, if you ask me, being funny isn't really important. That's unless you are doing stand up!
If you want to learn how to be funny, one good way is to watch a lot of comedians. That's what I did as a child. I think that's the normal way(of course, I was a natural talent).
evolvingnerd
Senior Don Juan
i believe that being funny (when ur not really a natural) is dependant on ur comfort level. me for instance can crack em up when i'm with my friends or had a few drinks
i think the goal should be to allow urself to get into a comfort zone, even around stranger (probably ties into confidence) that allows out funny side to shine
Don Pablo
Senior Don Juan
(I don't do drugs BTW)
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Austin Allegro
Master Don Juan
Eg, on a simple level, telling a rude joke might make the men in the pub laugh, but it probably wouldn't go down well at the vicarage tea party. It's all about context and timing.
Observation plays a large part as well. Closely watching how people behave, and noticing their little quirks and oddities, then pointing them out to others, is the basis of a lot of stand up routines.
Don Pablo
Senior Don Juan
Exactly.
AFK Protector
Master Don Juan
you need to think of a situation and then write down 5-10 funny things you could say. practice.
let me give you an example. let's say a girl accidentally brushes up against you and says, "i'm sorry."
typical response: "no problem."
now think of some funny things you could say.
"does that work with most guys?"
"we haven't met and you're already getting physical. slow down!!"
"this isn't a petting zoo!! hands off!!!"
"you're going to have to come up with a better way to hit on guys than that"