"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
being funny
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
playa in trainin'
Don Juan
All of the above. It's a skill, a talent, and it can be learned.
That means that if you are trying too hard to be funny, then it really shows. Can you be taught? Well, to an extant. It's really hard though, if you don't have comedic timing or are not a natural. Some comedians can't write funny, but when givin funny, they can deliever it like clock work.
It sort of depends. But, if you ask me, being funny isn't really important. That's unless you are doing stand up!
If you want to learn how to be funny, one good way is to watch a lot of comedians. That's what I did as a child. I think that's the normal way(of course, I was a natural talent).
evolvingnerd
Senior Don Juan
i believe that being funny (when ur not really a natural) is dependant on ur comfort level. me for instance can crack em up when i'm with my friends or had a few drinks
i think the goal should be to allow urself to get into a comfort zone, even around stranger (probably ties into confidence) that allows out funny side to shine
Don Pablo
Senior Don Juan
(I don't do drugs BTW)
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Austin Allegro
Master Don Juan
Eg, on a simple level, telling a rude joke might make the men in the pub laugh, but it probably wouldn't go down well at the vicarage tea party. It's all about context and timing.
Observation plays a large part as well. Closely watching how people behave, and noticing their little quirks and oddities, then pointing them out to others, is the basis of a lot of stand up routines.
Don Pablo
Senior Don Juan
Exactly.
AFK Protector
Master Don Juan
you need to think of a situation and then write down 5-10 funny things you could say. practice.
let me give you an example. let's say a girl accidentally brushes up against you and says, "i'm sorry."
typical response: "no problem."
now think of some funny things you could say.
"does that work with most guys?"
"we haven't met and you're already getting physical. slow down!!"
"this isn't a petting zoo!! hands off!!!"
"you're going to have to come up with a better way to hit on guys than that"