Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
playa in trainin'
Don Juan
All of the above. It's a skill, a talent, and it can be learned.
That means that if you are trying too hard to be funny, then it really shows. Can you be taught? Well, to an extant. It's really hard though, if you don't have comedic timing or are not a natural. Some comedians can't write funny, but when givin funny, they can deliever it like clock work.
It sort of depends. But, if you ask me, being funny isn't really important. That's unless you are doing stand up!
If you want to learn how to be funny, one good way is to watch a lot of comedians. That's what I did as a child. I think that's the normal way(of course, I was a natural talent).
evolvingnerd
Senior Don Juan
i believe that being funny (when ur not really a natural) is dependant on ur comfort level. me for instance can crack em up when i'm with my friends or had a few drinks
i think the goal should be to allow urself to get into a comfort zone, even around stranger (probably ties into confidence) that allows out funny side to shine
Don Pablo
Senior Don Juan
(I don't do drugs BTW)
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Austin Allegro
Master Don Juan
Eg, on a simple level, telling a rude joke might make the men in the pub laugh, but it probably wouldn't go down well at the vicarage tea party. It's all about context and timing.
Observation plays a large part as well. Closely watching how people behave, and noticing their little quirks and oddities, then pointing them out to others, is the basis of a lot of stand up routines.
Don Pablo
Senior Don Juan
Exactly.
AFK Protector
Master Don Juan
you need to think of a situation and then write down 5-10 funny things you could say. practice.
let me give you an example. let's say a girl accidentally brushes up against you and says, "i'm sorry."
typical response: "no problem."
now think of some funny things you could say.
"does that work with most guys?"
"we haven't met and you're already getting physical. slow down!!"
"this isn't a petting zoo!! hands off!!!"
"you're going to have to come up with a better way to hit on guys than that"