"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Being friendly or interested?

FortunateSon

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There's this girl at work and she always smiles at me as we cross paths, we do so several times a day and she always smiles at me when she walks past.

I've tried striking up some small talk with her, but she blushed, apologised for doing so saying she had a lack of sleep, conversed and then said bye before continuing about her day.

I assume she is just an outgoing, friendly person who isn't interested but a work mate of mine thinks she is. So who is more likely right?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You just have to make a move to confirm one or the other. I'd invite her to a coffee break. If she meets up for coffee then cool. If she declines or flakes a bit later then you have your answer.
 
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FortunateSon said:
There's this girl at work and she always smiles at me as we cross paths, we do so several times a day and she always smiles at me when she walks past.

I've tried striking up some small talk with her, but she blushed, apologised for doing so saying she had a lack of sleep, conversed and then said bye before continuing about her day.

I assume she is just an outgoing, friendly person who isn't interested but a work mate of mine thinks she is. So who is more likely right?
NEVER EVER date someone from work!

However make her a friend and get all of HER girlfriends.
 
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