"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Being friendly or interested?

FortunateSon

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There's this girl at work and she always smiles at me as we cross paths, we do so several times a day and she always smiles at me when she walks past.

I've tried striking up some small talk with her, but she blushed, apologised for doing so saying she had a lack of sleep, conversed and then said bye before continuing about her day.

I assume she is just an outgoing, friendly person who isn't interested but a work mate of mine thinks she is. So who is more likely right?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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You just have to make a move to confirm one or the other. I'd invite her to a coffee break. If she meets up for coffee then cool. If she declines or flakes a bit later then you have your answer.
 
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FortunateSon said:
There's this girl at work and she always smiles at me as we cross paths, we do so several times a day and she always smiles at me when she walks past.

I've tried striking up some small talk with her, but she blushed, apologised for doing so saying she had a lack of sleep, conversed and then said bye before continuing about her day.

I assume she is just an outgoing, friendly person who isn't interested but a work mate of mine thinks she is. So who is more likely right?
NEVER EVER date someone from work!

However make her a friend and get all of HER girlfriends.
 
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