"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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meihu

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Hi,

Well I'm a brother form another member here, I asked him for advice in this matter and tho I liked his advice he told me that I could always ask here also so here I am =P

The thing is that I've known this girl for 3 years or 4 maybe but haven't seen her in like 1 year since I just started high school 1 year ago, but I've had her on my hi5 for like 2 years now, but never really talked with her except 5 days ago when I watched her pics and found out she's steaming hot (she wasn't that hot before) so I decided to leave a comment but she barely gets on hi5 so my question is should I just message her and be like: "hey I would really like to get back in touch with you, and since none of us check hi5 that often what you say if we chat over mail, here's mine in case you want to add me" or just like go around it a bit through different messages and comments?

I know kinda of a weird and lame question but could really use some help here.
So what should I do?

Thanks in advance.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'd say do it in person if you can. Girls, you see, are prone to first impressions.

A ballsy, personal introduction is a sure thing for success.
 

meihu

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Alkali said:
I'd say do it in person if you can. Girls, you see, are prone to first impressions.

A ballsy, personal introduction is a sure thing for success.
I know I would love to do it in person, since I've been doing some of the DJ boot camp so it helps me practice and also let's me put what I've learned in practice.
But the thing is that other then hi5 I have no way to get in touch with her =S
 
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