"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Being c*ckedblocked by her best friend

PS79

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This girl and I have a thing...can't explain what it its...but its something. We flirt, we're fun and playful but I get none of the benefits bc she gets too uptight for some reason when she "thinks" about it. Anyway I can put her on the backburner...No problem.

THE REAL PROBLEM: Her best friend is very envious and jealous of the relationship that I have with her. And she tries to sabotage it by talking smack about her to me behind her back and she talks sh*t about me to her behind my back.....

How should I handle this? Do I tell her best friend about this or not? Or should I not care about his at all and just let it be...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Corey

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Well do your best to get on her mates good side be it giving her more attention or bring a wingman along who will entertain her whilst you work it. Would be useful to have the ****block bigging you up to the girl though
 

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Sounds like you need a wingman. If you can't get one your going to have to do some good old fashioned social ball busting. A little humor can go a long way. It almost sounds like she's jealous for your attention.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It seems like she's jealous of my relationship with her and not necessarily attention cause the girl that c*ckblocking see's me more than than her best friend.
 

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Corey said:
Well do your best to get on her mates good side be it giving her more attention or bring a wingman along who will entertain her whilst you work it. Would be useful to have the ****block bigging you up to the girl though
exactly. if her friends dont want to F you too.. your not gonna last long..
 

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She's got a boyfriend too!!! ...and its one of my very good friends.

She's very envious and jealous of her best friend....and for some reason she can't stand the fact that I have "whatever it is" with her best friend.
 

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PS79 said:
She's got a boyfriend too!!! ...and its one of my very good friends.

She's very envious and jealous of her best friend....and for some reason she can't stand the fact that I have "whatever it is" with her best friend.
If you can't calm her down, can you drive her crazy? Incoherent crazy. Any insignificant things that piss her off?

Make her lose respect.
 

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PS79 said:
This girl and I have a thing...can't explain what it its...but its something. We flirt, we're fun and playful but I get none of the benefits bc she gets too uptight for some reason when she "thinks" about it. Anyway I can put her on the backburner...No problem.

THE REAL PROBLEM: Her best friend is very envious and jealous of the relationship that I have with her. And she tries to sabotage it by talking smack about her to me behind her back and she talks sh*t about me to her behind my back.....

How should I handle this? Do I tell her best friend about this or not? Or should I not care about his at all and just let it be...
You shouldn't "handle" it. You be polite and respectful to the best friend and keep treating the girl the way you usually do. If the best friend is still a jerk, you did your best. If the girl doesn't want to see you because of her best friend and is that easily influenced, you don't want her anyway.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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