"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Being a D1ck
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
jeffthechef
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you're overthinking things...just you instinct..she tells you to walk a mile to get her book that she forgot for class...then you object..she asks you if she can borrow a pencil..let her..then smile and say she owes you..and you'll tell her what you want after class
if you do it right..she'll get that you're playing with her..and aren't expecting monetary payment or some ridiculous ****..
Not because I want her to like me, not because I want her attention, but just because I don't mind going out of my way for people (not just girls) to help them out if they're in a spot of trouble.
I've always been like that, I loved to do volunteer work, I do charity stuff, I'm applying for the peace corps at 18. It's just how I am.
Is that so bad?
Not because I want her to like me, not because I want her attention, but just because I don't mind going out of my way for people (not just girls) to help them out if they're in a spot of trouble.
I've always been like that, I loved to do volunteer work, I do charity stuff, I'm applying for the peace corps at 18. It's just how I am.
Is that so bad?
jeffthechef
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If she wants you to do something as simple as sharing an eraser, why the **** not...but if she wants you to go a mile just to get her book when she could get it herself, why should you...yes i know it's the nice thing to do...but eventually she's just taking advantage of you
i'm really buddhist..i believe in karma and all that ****..perhaps you'll have good karma for getting that book..but then think about this...
by getting her book..you're reinforcing her belief that she is entitled to boss people and demand ridiculous favors...you are wrong for reinforcing her bad behavior
...you really have to be able to discern the severity of the situation...if she's seriously in need of help, of course you help...but if she's just too lazy, do as i said in my previous post
you have to develop decision making skills..
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Analyzeit
Senior Don Juan
It doesn't mean you don't be nice
as you guys have said sure borrow an eraser ect.. it's all good.
Your confused because you saw the advice and you took it waay to serious, take this website with a grain of salt.
Your going to be a funny d!ck not a, "Can you go back and grab my books for me?" "**** off what i look like your *****??" d!ck lol your going to be a... What's in it for me??
d!ck loldoes that make sense lol i wouldn't even call it a d!ck. Your just being a tease, and your not letting yourself get walked over by women
I'm pretty sure a girl is capable of running and getting her book herself (unless she's disabled), so why do you feel the need to help her? Funnily enough, being narcissistic (ie. putting yourself above women) makes them attracted to you. So you can either drop your AFC moralistic virtuous behaviour and increase your chances with the women, or you can keep your unhelpful behaviours and have a harder time with women AND waste your time trying to 'help' them.Big Poppa said:
The logical choice is obvious.