Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I'm pretty sure a girl is capable of running and getting her book herself (unless she's disabled), so why do you feel the need to help her? Funnily enough, being narcissistic (ie. putting yourself above women) makes them attracted to you. So you can either drop your AFC moralistic virtuous behaviour and increase your chances with the women, or you can keep your unhelpful behaviours and have a harder time with women AND waste your time trying to 'help' them.Big Poppa said:That's the thing, if a girl asked me to run and get her book, I probably would.
Not because I want her to like me, not because I want her attention, but just because I don't mind going out of my way for people (not just girls) to help them out if they're in a spot of trouble.