"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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beginning third month of college...update/general field reports

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So far I gotta say I've really come a long way since September. Since I got laid a few times this summer (and had a one-night stand on Halloween last week) I've really not been making poon the center of my life this semester. College has pretty much become the focal point of my life, I'm meeting people left and right, and the list of girls I'm pursuing is almost always full (I try to keep it around 5...not too honed to deal with 10 at a time yet).

I've noticed that I'm GREAT with the diva types, since I don't let anybody get away with ****. I come across as confident...maybe just a little too much, and I've found that it's great for weeding out the "I'm a woman, be a gentleman, waaaaah" types.

Where I run into problems, though, is with the introverted and nice types (I have a bit of a nerd fixation, so they make up about half of my current plates). Since they don't do as much **** testing and tend to be polite the entire time, it's like I have nothing to build chemistry with. This isn't good, as it plants the 'nice guy' seed. I do NOT want that getting around.

Thoughts? Tips?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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easun said:
are you more introverted or extroverted?
Socially able introvert. I mostly keep to myself and like smaller circles of close friends. When I do get out there, though, I'm easily mistaken for an extrovert...I'm almost too confident. Your average Mako shark is shier than I am.
 

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You are a champ, although you made a mean remark about my post. haha
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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