You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Thanks Cable Guy...I was in my local supermaret today and smiled at some lovely Ladies and they smiled back, I just wish I had the guts to go over too them and say hello and start a convo but I guess fear of rejection is holding me back.Cableguy said:Read the DJ Bible, lots of good info in there. Next, go out and make it a point to start up convos with all types of women to get your confidence back up.
When I starting reading this and other sites I discovered how bass ackwards my thinking was on how to meet women. I did ok on my own, but this site has helped me hone my game and the results are starting to become evident.
I cannot stress enough how important it is to go out and socialize and practice, practice, practice. Good luck.
You are so right...I guess females think, "well he just smiled at me...now what is he going to do?...I don't bite"...Cableguy said:Fear of rejection sucks but I bet you'd feel better had you gotten rejected as opposed to being afraid to at least say hi. From my experience women are pretty damn friendly when you engage them in conversation, especially during the day when they aren't expecting necessarily to be hit on.
Again, if you're that afraid of rejection then start slow. Just try saying hi and making a random comment. How can they reject you? When I go to the grocery store where I live there's always tons of hot ass in there. I make it a point to make small talk and I can't remember the last time a chick was rude.
What do you have to lose? You gotta do it. Get comfortable just talking to chicks. If you approach a woman with the intention of getting her number it puts alot of pressure on you and if your game isn't solid then you may choke. The 3 second rule helped me tremendously. When you see a hot babe, you have 3 seconds to go up and engage. Any longer than that and you psyche yourself out!
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.