"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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been out of the game for a little while...

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...and I have done alright in my years, I came out of a 4 year relationship in March, spent 3 months in another country and only met one girl that I really liked, now I am back home I was wondering what the best way is to get back in the game is without seeming desperate or needy, as I feel a little rusty and broken to be honest.

Thanks for your help.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Read the DJ Bible, lots of good info in there. Next, go out and make it a point to start up convos with all types of women to get your confidence back up.

When I starting reading this and other sites I discovered how bass ackwards my thinking was on how to meet women. I did ok on my own, but this site has helped me hone my game and the results are starting to become evident.

I cannot stress enough how important it is to go out and socialize and practice, practice, practice. Good luck.
 

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Cableguy said:
Read the DJ Bible, lots of good info in there. Next, go out and make it a point to start up convos with all types of women to get your confidence back up.

When I starting reading this and other sites I discovered how bass ackwards my thinking was on how to meet women. I did ok on my own, but this site has helped me hone my game and the results are starting to become evident.

I cannot stress enough how important it is to go out and socialize and practice, practice, practice. Good luck.
Thanks Cable Guy...I was in my local supermaret today and smiled at some lovely Ladies and they smiled back, I just wish I had the guts to go over too them and say hello and start a convo but I guess fear of rejection is holding me back.
 

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Fear of rejection sucks but I bet you'd feel better had you gotten rejected as opposed to being afraid to at least say hi. From my experience women are pretty damn friendly when you engage them in conversation, especially during the day when they aren't expecting necessarily to be hit on.

Again, if you're that afraid of rejection then start slow. Just try saying hi and making a random comment. How can they reject you? When I go to the grocery store where I live there's always tons of hot ass in there. I make it a point to make small talk and I can't remember the last time a chick was rude.

What do you have to lose? You gotta do it. Get comfortable just talking to chicks. If you approach a woman with the intention of getting her number it puts alot of pressure on you and if your game isn't solid then you may choke. The 3 second rule helped me tremendously. When you see a hot babe, you have 3 seconds to go up and engage. Any longer than that and you psyche yourself out!
 

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Fear of rejection sucks but I bet you'd feel better had you gotten rejected as opposed to being afraid to at least say hi. From my experience women are pretty damn friendly when you engage them in conversation, especially during the day when they aren't expecting necessarily to be hit on.

Again, if you're that afraid of rejection then start slow. Just try saying hi and making a random comment. How can they reject you? When I go to the grocery store where I live there's always tons of hot ass in there. I make it a point to make small talk and I can't remember the last time a chick was rude.

What do you have to lose? You gotta do it. Get comfortable just talking to chicks. If you approach a woman with the intention of getting her number it puts alot of pressure on you and if your game isn't solid then you may choke. The 3 second rule helped me tremendously. When you see a hot babe, you have 3 seconds to go up and engage. Any longer than that and you psyche yourself out!
You are so right...I guess females think, "well he just smiled at me...now what is he going to do?...I don't bite"...

I have a bad habit of seeing hot honeys and going dammnnn or wow which I really shouldn't do now I read this.

I think you are going to help me on my road to recovery...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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