"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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been out of the game for a little while...

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...and I have done alright in my years, I came out of a 4 year relationship in March, spent 3 months in another country and only met one girl that I really liked, now I am back home I was wondering what the best way is to get back in the game is without seeming desperate or needy, as I feel a little rusty and broken to be honest.

Thanks for your help.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Read the DJ Bible, lots of good info in there. Next, go out and make it a point to start up convos with all types of women to get your confidence back up.

When I starting reading this and other sites I discovered how bass ackwards my thinking was on how to meet women. I did ok on my own, but this site has helped me hone my game and the results are starting to become evident.

I cannot stress enough how important it is to go out and socialize and practice, practice, practice. Good luck.
 

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Cableguy said:
Read the DJ Bible, lots of good info in there. Next, go out and make it a point to start up convos with all types of women to get your confidence back up.

When I starting reading this and other sites I discovered how bass ackwards my thinking was on how to meet women. I did ok on my own, but this site has helped me hone my game and the results are starting to become evident.

I cannot stress enough how important it is to go out and socialize and practice, practice, practice. Good luck.
Thanks Cable Guy...I was in my local supermaret today and smiled at some lovely Ladies and they smiled back, I just wish I had the guts to go over too them and say hello and start a convo but I guess fear of rejection is holding me back.
 

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Fear of rejection sucks but I bet you'd feel better had you gotten rejected as opposed to being afraid to at least say hi. From my experience women are pretty damn friendly when you engage them in conversation, especially during the day when they aren't expecting necessarily to be hit on.

Again, if you're that afraid of rejection then start slow. Just try saying hi and making a random comment. How can they reject you? When I go to the grocery store where I live there's always tons of hot ass in there. I make it a point to make small talk and I can't remember the last time a chick was rude.

What do you have to lose? You gotta do it. Get comfortable just talking to chicks. If you approach a woman with the intention of getting her number it puts alot of pressure on you and if your game isn't solid then you may choke. The 3 second rule helped me tremendously. When you see a hot babe, you have 3 seconds to go up and engage. Any longer than that and you psyche yourself out!
 

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Fear of rejection sucks but I bet you'd feel better had you gotten rejected as opposed to being afraid to at least say hi. From my experience women are pretty damn friendly when you engage them in conversation, especially during the day when they aren't expecting necessarily to be hit on.

Again, if you're that afraid of rejection then start slow. Just try saying hi and making a random comment. How can they reject you? When I go to the grocery store where I live there's always tons of hot ass in there. I make it a point to make small talk and I can't remember the last time a chick was rude.

What do you have to lose? You gotta do it. Get comfortable just talking to chicks. If you approach a woman with the intention of getting her number it puts alot of pressure on you and if your game isn't solid then you may choke. The 3 second rule helped me tremendously. When you see a hot babe, you have 3 seconds to go up and engage. Any longer than that and you psyche yourself out!
You are so right...I guess females think, "well he just smiled at me...now what is he going to do?...I don't bite"...

I have a bad habit of seeing hot honeys and going dammnnn or wow which I really shouldn't do now I read this.

I think you are going to help me on my road to recovery...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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