So I been with this chick for almost 3 years and we have 3 kids 1 not by me and 2 I made with her lately she been talking about putting me out and (we live with her cousin) and things she cheated on me after our 2nd son was born with this guy and I cheated back I was a truck driver before we got together had my own house and everything but lost my license and house and all my question is I have nothing no money nothing so should I focus on getting another house before she puts me out for good or getting a car I'm thinking house but she keeps trying to argue when things get good for me
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Been a long time need advice
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
wifehunter
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Car....you can sleep in your car.
A house is $$$$$$$$ at these rates.
A house is $$$$$$$$ at these rates.
Desdinova
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If you're going to get rid of her, get out as soon as you can. Move in with a friend, your parents, or a small apartment. You'll be in a better headspace and be able to focus better once you eliminate the negativity from your life.
Agree with Desdinova , move out, don't wait to be kicked out with no where to go. Do this 1st.
After moving out, i would suggest the following goals;
1. For the short term, you need a job to keep your time occupied, even if it's washing dishes do it. Extra cash would be handy even if it's 5 bucks. This helps with your confidence level, that's important for moving on.
2. For your medium term goals, save what little you have on either getting back your license, if it's not possible then focus on part time trade school. Pick up a skill with certification. It's useful and in demand.
3. Long term goals, these goals should reflect your ability to be on your own, providing growth both financially and even spiritually - peacefulness - happiness.
After moving out, i would suggest the following goals;
1. For the short term, you need a job to keep your time occupied, even if it's washing dishes do it. Extra cash would be handy even if it's 5 bucks. This helps with your confidence level, that's important for moving on.
2. For your medium term goals, save what little you have on either getting back your license, if it's not possible then focus on part time trade school. Pick up a skill with certification. It's useful and in demand.
3. Long term goals, these goals should reflect your ability to be on your own, providing growth both financially and even spiritually - peacefulness - happiness.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Doctor Europeo
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This was your mistake. You always stay away from single moms unless she´s rich and successful
Roober
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How does this happen AFTER you have found SS in 2012?
Even though you seem to be seriously lacking in learning capabilities, do what @Desdinova said.
Even though you seem to be seriously lacking in learning capabilities, do what @Desdinova said.