Well I just came back from this huge band afterparty and needless to say, it was a very cool party which a lot of people came to. But the bad thing is I was anything but the life of the party. I was loud, eccentric and sh*t, but in the end no one really paid attention to that and I wasn't really the life of the party. I was very loud and energetic but the life of the party was elsewhere. And guess what -- Amanda was there and I had a lot of chances to game her but didn't and I feel pathetic for that. The only time I really talked to her was when I said "Yo Amanda, what happened to your hair?" and she was like "Oh I curled it, for fun". Yeah, so that sucked. But dude, how do you become the life of the party? How do you control the interaction at a party?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Becoming the LIFE of the party.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
The secret to becoming the life of the party is that their is no such thing as the life of the party.
I always see a bunch of friends together, but never have I seen everyone centered around a single person.
I suppose if you want to become the center of your party, live an exciting life and have exciting stories to tell.
comic_relief
I always see a bunch of friends together, but never have I seen everyone centered around a single person.
I suppose if you want to become the center of your party, live an exciting life and have exciting stories to tell.
comic_relief
Dongfu
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Some days you feel better than others. When you are on, you will naturally attract more attention, and people will gravitate to you. Rather than trying to win over the entire party, I like to be the life of the party for the girl i'm interested in.
Let some other big mouth get all the attention, meanwhile, casually, calmly you move in for the kill.
Let some other big mouth get all the attention, meanwhile, casually, calmly you move in for the kill.
PigAdlemPimp
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Dude if you desperately want to become the life of the party you never will because you are too worried about it.
Become the type of dude that the hot babes desire, never be affraid to say and do what you want when you are around hot babes.
Never do things to impress a hot babe, never fear being rejected by one, don't ever worry about what any hot babe thinks about you.
Just talk to the hot babes like you would an ugly dude, don't pay them any special attention, if you want to fvck a hot babe reveal this to her, if she doesn't want you to fvck her, shrug it off don't even think about it, keep on asking until you get what you are after.
Become the type of dude that the hot babes desire, never be affraid to say and do what you want when you are around hot babes.
Never do things to impress a hot babe, never fear being rejected by one, don't ever worry about what any hot babe thinks about you.
Just talk to the hot babes like you would an ugly dude, don't pay them any special attention, if you want to fvck a hot babe reveal this to her, if she doesn't want you to fvck her, shrug it off don't even think about it, keep on asking until you get what you are after.
Kev07
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Well the only times I've ever been the life of a party was when I was just messing around with my buddies and didn't give a crap.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
forget about this amanda b1tch. Maybe I'm missing something, but why the hell are you chasing her around? Either she's interested in you or she isn't. Try asking her out. If her interest level isn't HIGH, then find someone better.
Thanks for the advice guys. And about Amanda, why do I keep chasing her? Well I'm attracted to her of course. The only reason I didn't go up to her last night is because she's always hanging with this guy friends of hers. But what do I got to worry about? They dated and she dumped him, nows his turn to let someone else have a try. Excuses aside I just didn't approach her because of insecurities in my own game.
Kev07 said:Well the only times I've ever been the life of a party was when I was just messing around with my buddies and didn't give a crap.
Same, when your just vibing real well with your best buds and doing stupid stuff, people are naturally attracted to you. But, for me at least, the catch 22 of this is that when your doing that with your friends you don't really care about being the life of the party and just usually blow other people off nicely when they try to talk to you.