"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Becoming more self aware
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
redspicyflag
Master Don Juan
Let me get you started
http://delicious.com/solracious/bundle:life
This is my personal bevy of bookmarks for my personal growth
It takes time and effort to question yourself and see what you really stand for
it's worth it
trust me
ready123
Master Don Juan
and in the company of others, ask for their opinion. if you're macking, you can do this with girls to pick their brain and it's fun. kill two birds with 1 stone lol
and if you wanna take it a step further, after you get a clearer sense of what makes you you, accept everything. the stuff that an insecure person would feel ashamed about, make fun of and embrace. that's true confidence
Your subconscious is always right, because it dictates what you are, and what you are going to do as a result.
If in your subconscious you think you are a loser, then its correct. If your subconscious says you are a winner, then its correct. You will focus on being a winner.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.