Becoming more secure with yourself

[skinnyguy]

I admit I still have major insecurities - I get annoyed when someone gets 108 likes on their FB post and I only get 7. I know this is irrational but I keep doing it.

In reality I have many reasons to be proud of myself but I let little things get to me. I don't use my race as an excuse that much anymore, but it still stops me from approaching at times because I feel that a girl won't like me for my looks.

Wanted to discuss ways to get over insecurities and anxieties. Most of the time, they are made up, and prevent us from reaching our goals.

 

[astrn]

I admit I still have major insecurities - I get annoyed when someone gets 108 likes on their FB post and I only get 7. I know this is irrational but I keep doing it.

In reality I have many reasons to be proud of myself but I let little things get to me. I don't use my race as an excuse that much anymore, but it still stops me from approaching at times becauseI feel that a girl won't like me for my looks.

Wanted to discuss ways to get over insecurities and anxieties. Most of the time, they are made up, and prevent us from reaching our goals.

Man, I feel you!

For the bolded section I want to say actually youre saving yourself from alot of trouble. If you feel in that way just next. Find someone to be cold approached that you are sure you and she is comfy with you. Dont be in a hesitation mode like you have to approach every hb7 material you see. You ll know when you see...

I am trying to do cold approaches since 4 days but so far "0". I had some insecure issues with myself also. I got rid of most of them but there are also some like i need to improve my body, my job etc...

 

[Bible_Belt]

I think women have much worse insecurity issues than men. Try to keep that in mind the next time the next time you talk to one. Even if she is a total b!tch to you, she's probably acting that way due to her own insecurity issues, not because of your value as a person.

Everyone has insecurities. If you want to master your own, learn to spot other people's similar issues. Bolster their confidence when you see they need it. That's a good way to treat anybody, but it works especially well with women. Ease her insecurities, and it will make her comfortable with you.

 

[astrn]

I think women have much worse insecurity issues than men. Try to keep that in mind the next time the next time you talk to one. Even if she is a total b!tch to you, she's probably acting that way due to her own insecurity issues, not because of your value as a person.

Everyone has insecurities. If you want to master your own, learn to spot other people's similar issues. Bolster their confidence when you see they need it. That's a good way to treat anybody, but it works especially well with women. Ease her insecurities, and it will make her comfortable with you.

Good points.

But;

I believe there is a very fine line between bolstering their insecurities and filling up their egos. So you need to be extra careful when you achieve about that...

 

[PeasantPlayer]

I get in secure, I am more attractive then my friends, but I take bad pictures and I am a dud on Tinder and POF, but in real life I get women pretty easily. And I am not in tip top shape yet, I am a bit stocky/chunky. I met one chick off pof and she almost didn't recognize me, said I looked even finer in person. I notice white people blondes picture the best for some reason. It makes me insecure, but real life is where it counts