"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Becoming more secure with yourself

skinnyguy

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I admit I still have major insecurities - I get annoyed when someone gets 108 likes on their FB post and I only get 7. I know this is irrational but I keep doing it.

In reality I have many reasons to be proud of myself but I let little things get to me. I don't use my race as an excuse that much anymore, but it still stops me from approaching at times because I feel that a girl won't like me for my looks.

Wanted to discuss ways to get over insecurities and anxieties. Most of the time, they are made up, and prevent us from reaching our goals.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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skinnyguy said:
I admit I still have major insecurities - I get annoyed when someone gets 108 likes on their FB post and I only get 7. I know this is irrational but I keep doing it.

In reality I have many reasons to be proud of myself but I let little things get to me. I don't use my race as an excuse that much anymore, but it still stops me from approaching at times becauseI feel that a girl won't like me for my looks.

Wanted to discuss ways to get over insecurities and anxieties. Most of the time, they are made up, and prevent us from reaching our goals.
Man, I feel you!

For the bolded section I want to say actually youre saving yourself from alot of trouble. If you feel in that way just next. Find someone to be cold approached that you are sure you and she is comfy with you. Dont be in a hesitation mode like you have to approach every hb7 material you see. You ll know when you see...

I am trying to do cold approaches since 4 days but so far "0". I had some insecure issues with myself also. I got rid of most of them but there are also some like i need to improve my body, my job etc...
 

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I think women have much worse insecurity issues than men. Try to keep that in mind the next time the next time you talk to one. Even if she is a total b!tch to you, she's probably acting that way due to her own insecurity issues, not because of your value as a person.

Everyone has insecurities. If you want to master your own, learn to spot other people's similar issues. Bolster their confidence when you see they need it. That's a good way to treat anybody, but it works especially well with women. Ease her insecurities, and it will make her comfortable with you.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
I think women have much worse insecurity issues than men. Try to keep that in mind the next time the next time you talk to one. Even if she is a total b!tch to you, she's probably acting that way due to her own insecurity issues, not because of your value as a person.

Everyone has insecurities. If you want to master your own, learn to spot other people's similar issues. Bolster their confidence when you see they need it. That's a good way to treat anybody, but it works especially well with women. Ease her insecurities, and it will make her comfortable with you.
Good points.

But;

I believe there is a very fine line between bolstering their insecurities and filling up their egos. So you need to be extra careful when you achieve about that...
 

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I get in secure, I am more attractive then my friends, but I take bad pictures and I am a dud on Tinder and POF, but in real life I get women pretty easily. And I am not in tip top shape yet, I am a bit stocky/chunky. I met one chick off pof and she almost didn't recognize me, said I looked even finer in person. I notice white people blondes picture the best for some reason. It makes me insecure, but real life is where it counts
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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