Becoming Exclusive ....

[European-DJ]

Fellow Don Juans, i have an issue and a question for your to answer (or atleast give it a try)..

I have been flirting with this girl for ½ an year, when we startet, we both were in realationsships.
- MIne worse than hers.. We were both Hot & Cold vs. each other throughout the first 5 months, but lately, we have been totaly hooked at each other ..

The question is how to tell if she wants to get exclusive or not - honestly, i want a break from the 'hunting life', just for a bit (or atleast have a girl that i KNOW want me, when it fails)..


She tells me that she only want to be with me, but at the same time tell me, that she is not ready for a realationsship yet, because of her break-up (1 month ago).
She is all like 'I do not have the feeling that i wanna Hoe down, but i am not ready to settle just yet - you are the only one i wanna see though'.
- And i do believe her a bit at that point, cause she is writing me every day, i have seen her a lot lately ..

- How should i interpretate this scenario?? Does she want me or not? .. and how can i put her thoughts in that direction, without asking her if she want?

EDIT; YEs i have slept with her, yes it was more than once!

 

[European-DJ]

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[OnTheWayUp]

Important question.... have you slept with her yet?

 

[European-DJ]

Important question.... have you slept with her yet?

3-4 times

 

[OnTheWayUp]

Great! Then focus on enjoying the casual sex while it lasts. Leave it to the woman to think about "the relationship" and "where the two of you are going", etc. If and when she wants to be exclusive, she'll tell you by asking something like "are you seeing anyone else?" The present situation is easy for you and fun at the same time. What could be better?

QUOTE: "She is all like 'I do not have the feeling that i wanna Hoe down, but i am not ready to settle just yet - you are the only one i wanna see though'.
- And i do believe her a bit at that point, cause she is writing me every day, i have seen her a lot lately .."

Remember to judge women by their actions, not their words. If she's writing to you every day, and you've slept with her 3/4 times, she's clearly into you. You may well be her next big thing- that's awesome for you! However, you may also be the rebound guy who she wants to get a fix from after her relationship. This is also great for you- easy sex with a girl you like! Just enjoy the sex for what it is without worrying about the future between the two of you.