Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Becoming complacent

Huffman

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Do you guys get the feeling that, as you're older and more experienced, you get complacent with your achievements?

I just went out solo tonight (my friends suck), and I frankly didn't get up the balls to do anythig interesting. I mean I don't stop girls on the street, but I would usually go into a pub, have a drink, chat up some 2sets of girls near the bar.

I didn't even manage. I ended up having to force myself to even enter two bars. Long story short, inside were absolute weinerfests, but the 3rd bar which should have been good I chickened out on. Pathetic! Just because I wanted something, and I didn't dare to even try.

Back in the day I used to do crazy openers&stuff, just for fun, just to prove that I could. I was so ****y and ballsy, but all that is gone now. Funnily enough, I look alot better and am experienced today, so I actually get laid alot more (medium quality girls chase me).

But it really makes me think I've become complacent. I do get laid, but not with the girls I REALLY want. Makes me think that all the courage I thought I had - I never had it to begin with.

Anybody else in here feel like a balding wannabe James Bond? :p
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Huffman

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I realize that there are better options than going out solo (like building a better social circle) but, for me, it's simply that I wanted something (really felt like chatting up some girls) and didn't go for it.

Sometimes it really feels like all those achievements were for nothing. What good are skills, if I can't summon them at need?
 

Huffman

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It's besides the point, fact is that I chickened out on something I wanted to do.

Getting a number, getting laid, doesn't matter all that much. I felt like fun human interaction yesterday but I didn't have it.
 

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Huffman - What are good skills, if I cannot summon them at need?

Rainman - Don't summon them, just do it!
 

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I'd argue its all about how many orgasms you're letting yourself have... cut back on them if you want the drive... Makes all the difference in the world for me, hah.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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