"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Becoming complacent

Huffman

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Do you guys get the feeling that, as you're older and more experienced, you get complacent with your achievements?

I just went out solo tonight (my friends suck), and I frankly didn't get up the balls to do anythig interesting. I mean I don't stop girls on the street, but I would usually go into a pub, have a drink, chat up some 2sets of girls near the bar.

I didn't even manage. I ended up having to force myself to even enter two bars. Long story short, inside were absolute weinerfests, but the 3rd bar which should have been good I chickened out on. Pathetic! Just because I wanted something, and I didn't dare to even try.

Back in the day I used to do crazy openers&stuff, just for fun, just to prove that I could. I was so ****y and ballsy, but all that is gone now. Funnily enough, I look alot better and am experienced today, so I actually get laid alot more (medium quality girls chase me).

But it really makes me think I've become complacent. I do get laid, but not with the girls I REALLY want. Makes me think that all the courage I thought I had - I never had it to begin with.

Anybody else in here feel like a balding wannabe James Bond? :p
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Huffman

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I realize that there are better options than going out solo (like building a better social circle) but, for me, it's simply that I wanted something (really felt like chatting up some girls) and didn't go for it.

Sometimes it really feels like all those achievements were for nothing. What good are skills, if I can't summon them at need?
 

Huffman

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It's besides the point, fact is that I chickened out on something I wanted to do.

Getting a number, getting laid, doesn't matter all that much. I felt like fun human interaction yesterday but I didn't have it.
 

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Huffman - What are good skills, if I cannot summon them at need?

Rainman - Don't summon them, just do it!
 

piranha45

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I'd argue its all about how many orgasms you're letting yourself have... cut back on them if you want the drive... Makes all the difference in the world for me, hah.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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