"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Becoming a moderator?

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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comic_relief

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First rule of becoming a moderator is not talking about becoming a moderator.

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Vincent

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comic_relief said:
First rule of becoming a moderator is not talking about becoming a moderator.
qft
 

Doggystyle

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Why would you want to be a moderator? looks like hard work to me!

Do you moderators get paid?
 

Centaurion

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Yes they do get paid.

Every forthnight they get Fed-exed a shipment of my manjuice that they can use for their own pleasure.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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PRMoon

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Doggystyle said:
Why would you want to be a moderator? looks like hard work to me!

Do you moderators get paid?
Even if they did get paid, it wouldn't be enough. You have to have a passion to sift through all the garbage here and get rid of the garbage that is the most rechid. I mean come on, look at some of the crap that's on this site! Or do what I do look for the meaty stuff that has some potential and ignore the rest of the crap.

I'll never be a mod but my hat's off to the ones who are here and willing to put up with what happens in this kindergarden.
 

Soprano

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pft why the **** would u want to be a moderator
 

Vincent

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Soprano said:
pft why the **** would u want to be a moderator
I was young and stupid, don't hold it against me :cry:
 

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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