Ken785
Master Don Juan
min. 50k year. no degree needed. what do you guys think?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
exactly. it ain't the tv or movies. too many guys have been watching too many reruns of chips. most cops work in quiet little communities where passing out speeding tickets is the sexiest thing they ever get to do. being a cop is super safe. if you want a dangerous american job you should become a truck driver or crab fisherman.DJDamage said:I heard being a cop is actually a boring job. You spend 90% of the time writing reports and driving around, while the other 10% dealing with the lowlifes of society. Before you become one find out if its really a job that you want to do.
I agree with pretty much everything you said except for the hypocritical part. Cops are running stop signs to get to a call quicker. Sure, you get the occasional cop that abuses this, just like any other profession. Its a perk of the job I guess. I mean, you work at blockbuster, you get free rentals. You work at a car dealership, you get discounts on new vehicles. You become a cop, you get out of the occasional speeding ticket. haha!KarmaSutra said:Cons:
Not enough money for the jeopardy of the work involved.
You have to be hypocritical. It's ok if cops run a stop sign but you can't?
You can get killed.
Pschologically you get fvcked in the noggin'.
You're immediately stereotyped as a donut lover.
Pros:
Some women love guys in uniform.
You can legally carry a firearm (that you have to purchase). Wait, so can law abiding citizens . . . scratch that one.
Gee, lemmee guess?
Wrong. You mean they don't have thieves and crackheads in small towns?Deus ex Pianoforte said:VERY poor representation.
Cons?
- It's up to the individual to decide what is enough money to do a job, or not. And if you live in a small town or a city with low crime, then there is little to NO jeopardy in the work involved.
Get your head out of your ass. I expect civil servants to follow the same laws as they push. Namely, don't run a yellow light or roll through a stop sign.There is nothing hypocritical about certain measures that police officers take to defend the public. What do you want cops to do, stop at stop signs in the middle of a high-speed pursuit while the criminal runs them? Please.
Obviously you don't know jacksh!t about the psychological impact of law enforcement and the pressure that comes with it.Who says you get psychologically f'ucked? Maybe if you're already an unstable individual, or have been watching too many movies...sure.
Most card carrying Republicans wouldn't.Personally, I wouldn't want someone walking around with a firearm that would be bothered by a couple of pot-smoking teenagers stereotyping them as a "donut lover." But that's just me.
As for the pros, you can only think of one? That some women love men in uniform? Come on now. How about:
1) One of the highest paid jobs you can get without a college degree, with fantastic benefits.
2) Unique and exciting job environment. (Opportunity to shoot people)
3) Endless advancement opportunities. (Rip off drug dealers and thieves)
4) Retire in 20 years. (or die in the line of duty)
5) Save lives, help people. ( people don't care about you when you're dead)
6) Be your own boss while on patrol. (no eyes watching over your shoulder)
7) Use your own discretion and judgment on the job. (see above)
8) All your coworkers have passed an extensive background investigation.
9) Help your community. ( Ok, this is plausable)
10) Easily move into other fields of law enforcement. (what's the suicide rate among cops?)
Let's be fair, now.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Nice to see that you argue all over the website, great use of your time. Good luck becoming a cop, they would never hire a man of such leftist viewpoints as yourself. :kick:Deus ex Pianoforte said:VERY poor representation.
Cons?
- It's up to the individual to decide what is enough money to do a job, or not. And if you live in a small town or a city with low crime, then there is little to NO jeopardy in the work involved.
- There is nothing hypocritical about certain measures that police officers take to defend the public. What do you want cops to do, stop at stop signs in the middle of a high-speed pursuit while the criminal runs them? Please.
- Who says you get psychologically f'ucked? Maybe if you're already an unstable individual, or have been watching too many movies...sure.
- Personally, I wouldn't want someone walking around with a firearm that would be bothered by a couple of pot-smoking teenagers stereotyping them as a "donut lover." But that's just me.
As for the pros, you can only think of one? That some women love men in uniform? Come on now. How about:
1) One of the highest paid jobs you can get without a college degree, with fantastic benefits.
2) Unique and exciting job environment.
3) Endless advancement opportunities.
4) Retire in 20 years.
5) Save lives, help people.
6) Be your own boss while on patrol.
7) Use your own discretion and judgment on the job.
8) All your coworkers have passed an extensive background investigation.
9) Help your community.
10) Easily move into other fields of law enforcement.
Let's be fair, now.
What the fvck? My drug habits? Jackhole, this is your retort? That's the best you got? I accuse you of being a Republican and you accuse me of being a junkie? This proves how embarrassing it truly is to be a right winger. Good thing the Dems have control. 'Pub's on the run.Deus ex Pianoforte said:I That's it. Turn it to politics the minute someone mentions your drug habits on the net.
Your whole attitude reeks of the gangsta-rap culture mantra of "F'uck da police!", which often results in prison, death, or both. I'm sure the OP is looking for clear-thinking individuals to seriously discuss the option of becoming a police officer. Not far-left anti-government propoganda. Your rhetoric falls on a deaf ear.
logicallefty said:I've been a patrol officer for 3 years.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.