"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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BDP - scenario coming up need VETERANS INPUT ASAP

georgie24

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I have a serious question reguarding a scenario and the BDP ex that just left, this question i have is for the VERY mature and or experienced and will be sent via PM only, its about contact and i need a crisp point of view.

can i pm you ? if yes post here or pm me asap please



thank you
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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georgie24

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Bible_Belt said:
its about contact

don't

bingo

it has to do with the children we lost due to complications, the anniversary date of thier passing is comming up soon and im organizing a gett togther, unmungst everthing going on im torn as it is i dont have a solid answer to invite her or not.

do , dont? ect..

my family doesnt know about the BPD, she swept them off thier feet with her candy act

the day is about the kids and i dont wsnt to walk around sour because shes there, at the time its about the kids so it shouldnt matter, like i said her presance greattly affects me negatively
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Would you invite a card cheat to your card game?

Just stay away for your own sanity.

If you don't you might as well start mainlining heroin becuase that's what BPD's are ... an addiciton
 

georgie24

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The_411 said:
Would you invite a card cheat to your card game?

Just stay away for your own sanity.

If you don't you might as well start mainlining heroin becuase that's what BPD's are ... an addiciton
the games, tricks, stunts, vanishing acts..im over that, since we broke it off a few weeks ago im still healing so inviting her isnt what i want to do.

again ill look like bad guy when they start asking me were she is, note we are all around same age and used to hang out 2gether

i need a rational explination to my family why she isnt there
 

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georgie

You can pm me if you wish.

How bout telling your family she is ill and you two have ended it. That would be the truth, would it not?
 

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5string said:
georgie

You can pm me if you wish.

How bout telling your family she is ill and you two have ended it. That would be the truth, would it not?
that would be to logical and waste of energy as they have bought her side of the story of why it ended

its such a deep issue due to the kids

i also have to do whats best for me
 
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