"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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BDP - scenario coming up need VETERANS INPUT ASAP

georgie24

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I have a serious question reguarding a scenario and the BDP ex that just left, this question i have is for the VERY mature and or experienced and will be sent via PM only, its about contact and i need a crisp point of view.

can i pm you ? if yes post here or pm me asap please



thank you
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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georgie24

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Bible_Belt said:
its about contact

don't

bingo

it has to do with the children we lost due to complications, the anniversary date of thier passing is comming up soon and im organizing a gett togther, unmungst everthing going on im torn as it is i dont have a solid answer to invite her or not.

do , dont? ect..

my family doesnt know about the BPD, she swept them off thier feet with her candy act

the day is about the kids and i dont wsnt to walk around sour because shes there, at the time its about the kids so it shouldnt matter, like i said her presance greattly affects me negatively
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Would you invite a card cheat to your card game?

Just stay away for your own sanity.

If you don't you might as well start mainlining heroin becuase that's what BPD's are ... an addiciton
 

georgie24

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The_411 said:
Would you invite a card cheat to your card game?

Just stay away for your own sanity.

If you don't you might as well start mainlining heroin becuase that's what BPD's are ... an addiciton
the games, tricks, stunts, vanishing acts..im over that, since we broke it off a few weeks ago im still healing so inviting her isnt what i want to do.

again ill look like bad guy when they start asking me were she is, note we are all around same age and used to hang out 2gether

i need a rational explination to my family why she isnt there
 

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georgie

You can pm me if you wish.

How bout telling your family she is ill and you two have ended it. That would be the truth, would it not?
 

georgie24

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5string said:
georgie

You can pm me if you wish.

How bout telling your family she is ill and you two have ended it. That would be the truth, would it not?
that would be to logical and waste of energy as they have bought her side of the story of why it ended

its such a deep issue due to the kids

i also have to do whats best for me
 
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