"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Bartending School, weekend warrior gig??

The_flying_dutchman

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Call me silly, but while I'm still young (sorta) I'd like to pursue a side gig as a bartender.

don't get me wrong, I make 90K a year at my job as a corporate accountant.

But I've always had this childhood fantasy of working a bar and meeting trashy women, biker gangs, thugs, low lives, prostitutes, etc...


Do you guys have any recommendations on which school to attend?

Also, I should probably say that I know nothing about alcohol since I don't even drink.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The_flying_dutchman

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90K in CA, after taxes really aint much. Its not about money, its about a childhood fantasy if working in a seedy bar and meeting shady people.
 

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Bartending is a great job. But watch working dive joints if you're lucky enough to make the jump from b'tending school to working.

It's one of the most dangerous jobs there is because in a lot of places you are a de facto bouncer and are often the person in charge of a lot of cash.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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