"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Bartending School, weekend warrior gig??

The_flying_dutchman

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Call me silly, but while I'm still young (sorta) I'd like to pursue a side gig as a bartender.

don't get me wrong, I make 90K a year at my job as a corporate accountant.

But I've always had this childhood fantasy of working a bar and meeting trashy women, biker gangs, thugs, low lives, prostitutes, etc...


Do you guys have any recommendations on which school to attend?

Also, I should probably say that I know nothing about alcohol since I don't even drink.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The_flying_dutchman

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90K in CA, after taxes really aint much. Its not about money, its about a childhood fantasy if working in a seedy bar and meeting shady people.
 

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Bartending is a great job. But watch working dive joints if you're lucky enough to make the jump from b'tending school to working.

It's one of the most dangerous jobs there is because in a lot of places you are a de facto bouncer and are often the person in charge of a lot of cash.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

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