"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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this chick works at the bank i go to. cute girl and im planning on asking her out.

my question is....should i go in there a few times, make small talk each time while she is helping me....or just go direct next time i talk to her ie

me-whats your name
her-bank teller
me-do you have a boyfriend
her-(assuming she says no)
me-we should meet up for a drink, coffee, etc. whats your #?

or something to that affect. I'm usually pretty direct in bars so not sure if i should be here.

The obstacles obviously are that shes at work, there are sometimes coworkers or other customers very close by who could possibly be listening.

She chats and makes small talk when im her customer, but she is obviously just being friendly as she is an employee and i am the customer.

Any suggestions? Thanks fellas
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The fact that she is at work can be tricky but doable if she's interested. If I were you I'd go in a couple more times and chat like you have been. After that, when she asks if there's anything else she can help ya with, tell her ya and slip her a note or something. Btw, not all tellers are friendly and chatty...most hate their jobs lol
 

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well i was going to avoid slipping her a note...dont want her to think she is getting robbed!!!

she is usually pretty friendly smiling and eye contact...but again its very hard to tell when she is working and im the customer.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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don't overlook things , it's a note...if she's interested she'd be calm and welcome it
 

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Do NOT slip her a note dude. She likely will misinterpret it as a bank robbery.
 

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You could provide a note by saying "I'd like to withdraw $XXX broken down like this" and give her the note which shows the breakdown of cash:

$20 x 5
$10 x 5
$05 x 10
And dinner with you - your phone number _________.
 

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Haha I don't know the note thing just doesn't seem like a great idea in a bank. Next fmrime I'm in there I'll just be direct bi do best with that. If there are a ton of people arou d or a long line behind me, then as I'm Bout to walk away I'll leave a note w my phone number.

I feel like the chances are low of most girls actually calling/texting using that method tho.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've done this before. Here's what I did.

I made small talk every time I was in the Bank.

I got a vibe she would be interested so I wrote my cel
number on the back of my business card and also:
"We should get together for lunch :)"

I came in a few days later, made my check deposit
then when I said bye, I handed her the business card
and said "this is for you." then walked out.

Next day she calls me and said she was flattered I left
the note and we should definitely meet up soon.

I made plans on short notice, but she was busy, then she
tells me she's moving to another state in a few days, so
I let her go after that figuring the pursuit would be worthless.
 

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I like that pdx. Seems smooth enough. Just hope the girl is brave enough to contact...some aren't!
 

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I've done that twice (handing a card with a number and note on it) with women I have spoken to previously....they both contacted me.

I'm pretty sure it would not work when first meeting them.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Be direct, and fast. Tell her to give you her number, and say you'll call her some time. Don't make small talk in front of a bunch of folks (especially women), that could backfire. Get in and get out.

Stop thinking so much about this. Do the deed, and assess how it went later.
 

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Found out she has a boyfriend and 2 kids before I talked to her haha. Oh well. On to the next one
 

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I always want to pick up my tellers, but I used to be a teller and I know the other tellers are listening...and I hate that they know how much dough I hold. I'd recommend telling them that you also have another account at a different bank, especially if you're broke, haha.
 

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DonJuanabe said:
You could provide a note by saying "I'd like to withdraw $XXX broken down like this" and give her the note which shows the breakdown of cash:

$20 x 5
$10 x 5
$05 x 10
And dinner with you - your phone number _________.

I would only suggest this if you truly don't give a f**k, are spinning about 5 plates or you're a millionaire who won't feel silly if she rejects you. Trust me, if she's an attractive girl she's going to get sh!t like that all the time from guys who go to her window. Even the most beta chumps can be this clever.

I would suggest going in a few more times and outright flirt with her (subtle and tastefully, of course) and see how she responds. Building rapport is important because, as I said, she goes through hundreds of different customers everyday probably better looking than you.

The only way you're going to stand out is to let her familiarize herself with you...the fun "YOU".



Edit: Just read that she has a boyfriend and two kids. Oh well. You could always use this advice for the next cute teller you meet :)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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