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this chick works at the bank i go to. cute girl and im planning on asking her out.

my question is....should i go in there a few times, make small talk each time while she is helping me....or just go direct next time i talk to her ie

me-whats your name
her-bank teller
me-do you have a boyfriend
her-(assuming she says no)
me-we should meet up for a drink, coffee, etc. whats your #?

or something to that affect. I'm usually pretty direct in bars so not sure if i should be here.

The obstacles obviously are that shes at work, there are sometimes coworkers or other customers very close by who could possibly be listening.

She chats and makes small talk when im her customer, but she is obviously just being friendly as she is an employee and i am the customer.

Any suggestions? Thanks fellas
 

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The fact that she is at work can be tricky but doable if she's interested. If I were you I'd go in a couple more times and chat like you have been. After that, when she asks if there's anything else she can help ya with, tell her ya and slip her a note or something. Btw, not all tellers are friendly and chatty...most hate their jobs lol
 

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well i was going to avoid slipping her a note...dont want her to think she is getting robbed!!!

she is usually pretty friendly smiling and eye contact...but again its very hard to tell when she is working and im the customer.
 

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don't overlook things , it's a note...if she's interested she'd be calm and welcome it
 

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Do NOT slip her a note dude. She likely will misinterpret it as a bank robbery.
 

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You could provide a note by saying "I'd like to withdraw $XXX broken down like this" and give her the note which shows the breakdown of cash:

$20 x 5
$10 x 5
$05 x 10
And dinner with you - your phone number _________.
 

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Haha I don't know the note thing just doesn't seem like a great idea in a bank. Next fmrime I'm in there I'll just be direct bi do best with that. If there are a ton of people arou d or a long line behind me, then as I'm Bout to walk away I'll leave a note w my phone number.

I feel like the chances are low of most girls actually calling/texting using that method tho.
 

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Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I've done this before. Here's what I did.

I made small talk every time I was in the Bank.

I got a vibe she would be interested so I wrote my cel
number on the back of my business card and also:
"We should get together for lunch :)"

I came in a few days later, made my check deposit
then when I said bye, I handed her the business card
and said "this is for you." then walked out.

Next day she calls me and said she was flattered I left
the note and we should definitely meet up soon.

I made plans on short notice, but she was busy, then she
tells me she's moving to another state in a few days, so
I let her go after that figuring the pursuit would be worthless.
 

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I like that pdx. Seems smooth enough. Just hope the girl is brave enough to contact...some aren't!
 

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I've done that twice (handing a card with a number and note on it) with women I have spoken to previously....they both contacted me.

I'm pretty sure it would not work when first meeting them.
 

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Be direct, and fast. Tell her to give you her number, and say you'll call her some time. Don't make small talk in front of a bunch of folks (especially women), that could backfire. Get in and get out.

Stop thinking so much about this. Do the deed, and assess how it went later.
 

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Found out she has a boyfriend and 2 kids before I talked to her haha. Oh well. On to the next one
 

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I always want to pick up my tellers, but I used to be a teller and I know the other tellers are listening...and I hate that they know how much dough I hold. I'd recommend telling them that you also have another account at a different bank, especially if you're broke, haha.
 

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DonJuanabe said:
You could provide a note by saying "I'd like to withdraw $XXX broken down like this" and give her the note which shows the breakdown of cash:

$20 x 5
$10 x 5
$05 x 10
And dinner with you - your phone number _________.

I would only suggest this if you truly don't give a f**k, are spinning about 5 plates or you're a millionaire who won't feel silly if she rejects you. Trust me, if she's an attractive girl she's going to get sh!t like that all the time from guys who go to her window. Even the most beta chumps can be this clever.

I would suggest going in a few more times and outright flirt with her (subtle and tastefully, of course) and see how she responds. Building rapport is important because, as I said, she goes through hundreds of different customers everyday probably better looking than you.

The only way you're going to stand out is to let her familiarize herself with you...the fun "YOU".



Edit: Just read that she has a boyfriend and two kids. Oh well. You could always use this advice for the next cute teller you meet :)
 

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Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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