"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Upside

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DJ in training checking in. As I have been doing more approaching lately and becoming an overall more social guy I learn more and more that woman make great actors. That doesn't really have anything to do with my question, but a story first.

This has been in my head for a while. It really isn't a big deal, but I really can't stop questioning it for some dumb reason. I did some volunteer work at a children's carnival about 3 weeks ago trying to get 25 hours in 4 days for school (ended up with 30-36) ANYWAY, I knew there would be plenty of chicks my age doing it with me so this would be a perfect time to talk to some HB's. I meet a few girls but one in particular I really hit it off with. (HB 8) Early on it was general small talk with this and that, but I eventually started up some kino. I thought this was going very well and she was very receptive. I wasn't with her the whole time but it got to a point where I can just turn my head in her direction and got a big ass smile every time. Later on she just starts "bumping" into me and in my head I knew I was golden. I would have made a move but with kids and parents around me the entire time I didn't think it would be such a good idea. I get her number and we go our seperate ways. About 4 days later I call and no answer. No biggie, she has a life. Call again 2 days later, no answer; leave a message. That was the last time I called her and she never called back.

It is no suprise to any of us that woman might not call you back and were just being nice by talking; but seeing how into me this chick was kind of threw me for a loop. Was I just played for attention? No major AFC mistakes that I can think of. Broken phone? :eek:

Whatever. I just had to let that one out. I have gotten 3-4 numbers since then but out of all the chicks she seemed the most intrested.

Talk to me. Hell, this might be some form on oneitis I don't even realize.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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what kind of kino did you do?
 

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Mostly light touching here and there but there was a moment when i grabbed her from behind and started to toss her around a bit. It is actually how I got her number. I told her I would let go if she gave it to me.

I'm debating texting her or not. Probably not.
 

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Upside said:
I'm debating texting her or not. Probably not.
Trust me from experience...DON'T DO IT. It's gonna make you look more desperate, needy, thinkin too much and put her on a pedestal. It sucks that she didn't call back but the truth is...

IF THE GIRL WAS INTERESTED, SHE WOULD'VE SAID SOMETHING BY NOW....

The good thing about this was you learned a lesson that you should never put all your concentration on one chick. Just keep that in mind and continue to play the field. You'll be fine.

- Kingbeef
 

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detach from outcome call back a week later, if no answer, call back a week later, then again in a couple of weeks. you don't know her circumstances. I've had this numerous times and there are a million reasons for it. Usually what you'll find is (assuming you interpreted the situation correctly) she will break up with her boyfriend and answer and be so happy to hear from you.. could be one of a number of factors but DETACH FROM THE OUTCOME and call every week or so. one call, no messages...too easy :)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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