"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DJ in training checking in. As I have been doing more approaching lately and becoming an overall more social guy I learn more and more that woman make great actors. That doesn't really have anything to do with my question, but a story first.

This has been in my head for a while. It really isn't a big deal, but I really can't stop questioning it for some dumb reason. I did some volunteer work at a children's carnival about 3 weeks ago trying to get 25 hours in 4 days for school (ended up with 30-36) ANYWAY, I knew there would be plenty of chicks my age doing it with me so this would be a perfect time to talk to some HB's. I meet a few girls but one in particular I really hit it off with. (HB 8) Early on it was general small talk with this and that, but I eventually started up some kino. I thought this was going very well and she was very receptive. I wasn't with her the whole time but it got to a point where I can just turn my head in her direction and got a big ass smile every time. Later on she just starts "bumping" into me and in my head I knew I was golden. I would have made a move but with kids and parents around me the entire time I didn't think it would be such a good idea. I get her number and we go our seperate ways. About 4 days later I call and no answer. No biggie, she has a life. Call again 2 days later, no answer; leave a message. That was the last time I called her and she never called back.

It is no suprise to any of us that woman might not call you back and were just being nice by talking; but seeing how into me this chick was kind of threw me for a loop. Was I just played for attention? No major AFC mistakes that I can think of. Broken phone? :eek:

Whatever. I just had to let that one out. I have gotten 3-4 numbers since then but out of all the chicks she seemed the most intrested.

Talk to me. Hell, this might be some form on oneitis I don't even realize.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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what kind of kino did you do?
 

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Mostly light touching here and there but there was a moment when i grabbed her from behind and started to toss her around a bit. It is actually how I got her number. I told her I would let go if she gave it to me.

I'm debating texting her or not. Probably not.
 

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Upside said:
I'm debating texting her or not. Probably not.
Trust me from experience...DON'T DO IT. It's gonna make you look more desperate, needy, thinkin too much and put her on a pedestal. It sucks that she didn't call back but the truth is...

IF THE GIRL WAS INTERESTED, SHE WOULD'VE SAID SOMETHING BY NOW....

The good thing about this was you learned a lesson that you should never put all your concentration on one chick. Just keep that in mind and continue to play the field. You'll be fine.

- Kingbeef
 

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detach from outcome call back a week later, if no answer, call back a week later, then again in a couple of weeks. you don't know her circumstances. I've had this numerous times and there are a million reasons for it. Usually what you'll find is (assuming you interpreted the situation correctly) she will break up with her boyfriend and answer and be so happy to hear from you.. could be one of a number of factors but DETACH FROM THE OUTCOME and call every week or so. one call, no messages...too easy :)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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