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Hi everyone, I'm thinking about joining a ballroom or latin dance class. Anyone have any experiences with these dance types or opinions regarding them?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Ballroom or Latin dancing
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Actually, I've been to a Salsa dancing class yesterday. That was my first time so :woo: heh. But it was fun so I highly recommend this to anyone.
Just a sidenote. I have a deep but silent voice, especially in a places like this. Maybe it's because I am nervous or ... I don't know. Any suggestions how to improve this?
Just a sidenote. I have a deep but silent voice, especially in a places like this. Maybe it's because I am nervous or ... I don't know. Any suggestions how to improve this?
Keeper
Master Don Juan
Voice training?
If there's no clinics in your area, get a programme called: "The Sound of your Voice" by Carol Flemming.
Or read the 'empowering your voice' thread in the DJ bible.
If there's no clinics in your area, get a programme called: "The Sound of your Voice" by Carol Flemming.
Or read the 'empowering your voice' thread in the DJ bible.
Latin classes can be quite fun because the music is great. With latin dances there is much oportunity for eye contact because you partner tends to be further away. Even with salsa, when you aren't doing the real overtly sexy stuff your whole body's usually aren't touching.
With ballroom, your arm is all the way round their back and their stomach is pressed against yours and when you dance it is inevitable her breats will touch your chest at some point. Obviously if you are new to this and the girl is hot, there is the potentila for boner territory.
However ballroom feels really awkward when you first start and you can lose your balance and step on the girls feet etc.
Both Have they're advantages. If I were you I would try and find some good tango classes. There are 2 types. Argentine tango is a little like a latin dance. Ballroom tango is a ballroom dance but the hold is different and EVEN MORE intimate with your thighs aways being pushed up against each other etc and your back not so arched and your hand even further round her. If the girl is hot it feels really amazing to dance ballroom tango.
With ballroom, your arm is all the way round their back and their stomach is pressed against yours and when you dance it is inevitable her breats will touch your chest at some point. Obviously if you are new to this and the girl is hot, there is the potentila for boner territory.
However ballroom feels really awkward when you first start and you can lose your balance and step on the girls feet etc.
Both Have they're advantages. If I were you I would try and find some good tango classes. There are 2 types. Argentine tango is a little like a latin dance. Ballroom tango is a ballroom dance but the hold is different and EVEN MORE intimate with your thighs aways being pushed up against each other etc and your back not so arched and your hand even further round her. If the girl is hot it feels really amazing to dance ballroom tango.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Latin, definitely.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.