"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Ballroom or Latin dancing

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Hi everyone, I'm thinking about joining a ballroom or latin dance class. Anyone have any experiences with these dance types or opinions regarding them?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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arlanda

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Actually, I've been to a Salsa dancing class yesterday. That was my first time so :woo: heh. But it was fun so I highly recommend this to anyone.

Just a sidenote. I have a deep but silent voice, especially in a places like this. Maybe it's because I am nervous or ... I don't know. Any suggestions how to improve this?
 

Keeper

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Voice training?

If there's no clinics in your area, get a programme called: "The Sound of your Voice" by Carol Flemming. :)

Or read the 'empowering your voice' thread in the DJ bible.
 

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Latin classes can be quite fun because the music is great. With latin dances there is much oportunity for eye contact because you partner tends to be further away. Even with salsa, when you aren't doing the real overtly sexy stuff your whole body's usually aren't touching.

With ballroom, your arm is all the way round their back and their stomach is pressed against yours and when you dance it is inevitable her breats will touch your chest at some point. Obviously if you are new to this and the girl is hot, there is the potentila for boner territory.

However ballroom feels really awkward when you first start and you can lose your balance and step on the girls feet etc.

Both Have they're advantages. If I were you I would try and find some good tango classes. There are 2 types. Argentine tango is a little like a latin dance. Ballroom tango is a ballroom dance but the hold is different and EVEN MORE intimate with your thighs aways being pushed up against each other etc and your back not so arched and your hand even further round her. If the girl is hot it feels really amazing to dance ballroom tango.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Latin, definitely. :up:
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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