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Don Juan
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Hi everyone, I'm thinking about joining a ballroom or latin dance class. Anyone have any experiences with these dance types or opinions regarding them?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Ballroom or Latin dancing
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Actually, I've been to a Salsa dancing class yesterday. That was my first time so :woo: heh. But it was fun so I highly recommend this to anyone.
Just a sidenote. I have a deep but silent voice, especially in a places like this. Maybe it's because I am nervous or ... I don't know. Any suggestions how to improve this?
Just a sidenote. I have a deep but silent voice, especially in a places like this. Maybe it's because I am nervous or ... I don't know. Any suggestions how to improve this?
Keeper
Master Don Juan
Voice training?
If there's no clinics in your area, get a programme called: "The Sound of your Voice" by Carol Flemming.
Or read the 'empowering your voice' thread in the DJ bible.
If there's no clinics in your area, get a programme called: "The Sound of your Voice" by Carol Flemming.
Or read the 'empowering your voice' thread in the DJ bible.
Latin classes can be quite fun because the music is great. With latin dances there is much oportunity for eye contact because you partner tends to be further away. Even with salsa, when you aren't doing the real overtly sexy stuff your whole body's usually aren't touching.
With ballroom, your arm is all the way round their back and their stomach is pressed against yours and when you dance it is inevitable her breats will touch your chest at some point. Obviously if you are new to this and the girl is hot, there is the potentila for boner territory.
However ballroom feels really awkward when you first start and you can lose your balance and step on the girls feet etc.
Both Have they're advantages. If I were you I would try and find some good tango classes. There are 2 types. Argentine tango is a little like a latin dance. Ballroom tango is a ballroom dance but the hold is different and EVEN MORE intimate with your thighs aways being pushed up against each other etc and your back not so arched and your hand even further round her. If the girl is hot it feels really amazing to dance ballroom tango.
With ballroom, your arm is all the way round their back and their stomach is pressed against yours and when you dance it is inevitable her breats will touch your chest at some point. Obviously if you are new to this and the girl is hot, there is the potentila for boner territory.
However ballroom feels really awkward when you first start and you can lose your balance and step on the girls feet etc.
Both Have they're advantages. If I were you I would try and find some good tango classes. There are 2 types. Argentine tango is a little like a latin dance. Ballroom tango is a ballroom dance but the hold is different and EVEN MORE intimate with your thighs aways being pushed up against each other etc and your back not so arched and your hand even further round her. If the girl is hot it feels really amazing to dance ballroom tango.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Latin, definitely.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.