balance between being indifferent vs. sexually aggressive

[seth03]

How do you create a balance between being indifferent towards women versus being sexually aggressive? I’m usually indifferent, and it turns out well, but whenever I turn somewhat sexually aggressive girls seem to lose interest, as if they forgot how indifferent I was and start to think I’m desperate. How do you act sexual around a girl without looking desperate, needy or perverted? I'm always extremely confident with every move i make, so i know thats not the problem. Do you just act indifferent until they start acting sexual around you, or do you just wait for a certain length of time to start touching her and all that?

I hope this hasn't really been discussed. If so, feel free to ***** at me.

 

[Titus]

You are "extremly confident?"

I'm not sure if you are confident the "right way..."
Another person's enery can be felt, extremly felt... and it's like a mirror for your "inner coolnes." So you can call the girl, ask for date and try to do this and that to her and think "Wow! I am extremly confident and cool" while you are still shaking on the inside. And you may think that is not seen, but it is. Well, acutally, felt. 6th sense and all.

But that is just my personal interpretation of it all, since i have it very developed (6th sence)

 

[seth03]

oh no no, i am never shaking on the inside, or else i would have never said extremeley confident. I simply am not phased or shaken by any girl no matter how hot or ugly, i've just been like that my whole life. But deciding on when to be indifferent (my natural self) and when i should be sexually aggressive is whats killing me.

 

[DJmonster]

If indifferent works for you, stick with that. It probably depends on the chick and the situation, but I think being indifferent is usually the way to go. Building sexual tension should be the goal.

 

[Austin Allegro]

I think you need to combine the two states of indifference and aggression.

Consider the scene in 'Office Space' where the guy asks out Jennifer Aniston by saying something like 'I'm going next door for lunch and it would be cool if you could join me. But if you don't want to, that's cool as well'. Then he leaves.

 

[MacDiddy]

Are you confident and agressive with a sly cool smirk or if your facial expression just plain indifferent? (like "whatever")

The way you appear could say something.