"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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balance between being indifferent vs. sexually aggressive

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How do you create a balance between being indifferent towards women versus being sexually aggressive? I’m usually indifferent, and it turns out well, but whenever I turn somewhat sexually aggressive girls seem to lose interest, as if they forgot how indifferent I was and start to think I’m desperate. How do you act sexual around a girl without looking desperate, needy or perverted? I'm always extremely confident with every move i make, so i know thats not the problem. Do you just act indifferent until they start acting sexual around you, or do you just wait for a certain length of time to start touching her and all that?

I hope this hasn't really been discussed. If so, feel free to ***** at me.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You are "extremly confident?"

I'm not sure if you are confident the "right way..."
Another person's enery can be felt, extremly felt... and it's like a mirror for your "inner coolnes." So you can call the girl, ask for date and try to do this and that to her and think "Wow! I am extremly confident and cool" while you are still shaking on the inside. And you may think that is not seen, but it is. Well, acutally, felt. 6th sense and all.

But that is just my personal interpretation of it all, since i have it very developed (6th sence)
 
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oh no no, i am never shaking on the inside, or else i would have never said extremeley confident. I simply am not phased or shaken by any girl no matter how hot or ugly, i've just been like that my whole life. But deciding on when to be indifferent (my natural self) and when i should be sexually aggressive is whats killing me.
 
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If indifferent works for you, stick with that. It probably depends on the chick and the situation, but I think being indifferent is usually the way to go. Building sexual tension should be the goal.
 
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I think you need to combine the two states of indifference and aggression.

Consider the scene in 'Office Space' where the guy asks out Jennifer Aniston by saying something like 'I'm going next door for lunch and it would be cool if you could join me. But if you don't want to, that's cool as well'. Then he leaves.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Are you confident and agressive with a sly cool smirk or if your facial expression just plain indifferent? (like "whatever")

The way you appear could say something.
 
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