I've moved out to a new city, it's been 2 months but i still haven't made any friends that i can call up to do something, it's just a bad nite... i'm feeling so down because it's 8pm, and i don't have anything to do, i'm 18 so goin out to a bar is out of question... and i used to go out to party every weekend before i moved here... i feel so depressed cuz i'm bored, and haven't parties in 2 months... i'm thinking of goin to these online dating sites rite now, but the only people who would be left to chat on a saturday nite would be losers anyways.. oh god, i'm gonna have to go rent a movie again and watch it....
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
bad nite
- Thread starter titoman
- Start date
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
GSXR600
Don Juan
is there any 18 and over clubs where your at? Also craigslist is a good spot to find you some wingmen. Do you have any cool neibors, hang with them.
RaWBLooD
Master Don Juan
whats a craiglist????
most clubs are 19+ so u can see his dillema, unfortunately he has to wait till 19.
titoman i suggest tryin not to feel so down and just try to talk people at coffee shops and stuff, its not that hard, and if u jsut moved there and got no one near by, goin 2 gym u can make a good friend by spotting sum1.
its not likely youll have so many parties as where u lived before for a while, so make a trip up there every other month so u dont feel so alone.
yeah that's what i did a month ago rawblood, went down there to party lol... so i'm thinking of making that trip again...
by the way, is there anybody in a similar situation like mine, bored to death in a new place.. how do you deal with it???
by the way, is there anybody in a similar situation like mine, bored to death in a new place.. how do you deal with it???
white cloud 8
Senior Don Juan
dude...get a membership @ a gym, r u in school right now? meet a *TON* of people there or just go out and be social, it doesn't have to be a nightclub .
."I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
i agree with whitecloud
i know i do work out a at a gym, there isn't much people, i got some guys emails from work like 4 of them, i'm pretty social at work, and everybody says i'm the funniest guy alive!!! but when i talked to those guys online, and ask them what they are doin, they either don't respond, or they are like nothing's goin on and just sign off...
RaWBLooD
Master Don Juan
he might not be in school.Originally posted by white cloud 8
dude...get a membership @ a gym, r u in school right now? meet a *TON* of people there or just go out and be social, it doesn't have to be a nightclub
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Marlimus
Senior Don Juan
keep your head up, youngblood, we all feel down sometimes, I've been there. Just snap out of it and find ways to meet people.