I've moved out to a new city, it's been 2 months but i still haven't made any friends that i can call up to do something, it's just a bad nite... i'm feeling so down because it's 8pm, and i don't have anything to do, i'm 18 so goin out to a bar is out of question... and i used to go out to party every weekend before i moved here... i feel so depressed cuz i'm bored, and haven't parties in 2 months... i'm thinking of goin to these online dating sites rite now, but the only people who would be left to chat on a saturday nite would be losers anyways.. oh god, i'm gonna have to go rent a movie again and watch it....
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
bad nite
- Thread starter titoman
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
GSXR600
Don Juan
is there any 18 and over clubs where your at? Also craigslist is a good spot to find you some wingmen. Do you have any cool neibors, hang with them.
RaWBLooD
Master Don Juan
whats a craiglist????
most clubs are 19+ so u can see his dillema, unfortunately he has to wait till 19.
titoman i suggest tryin not to feel so down and just try to talk people at coffee shops and stuff, its not that hard, and if u jsut moved there and got no one near by, goin 2 gym u can make a good friend by spotting sum1.
its not likely youll have so many parties as where u lived before for a while, so make a trip up there every other month so u dont feel so alone.
yeah that's what i did a month ago rawblood, went down there to party lol... so i'm thinking of making that trip again...
by the way, is there anybody in a similar situation like mine, bored to death in a new place.. how do you deal with it???
by the way, is there anybody in a similar situation like mine, bored to death in a new place.. how do you deal with it???
white cloud 8
Senior Don Juan
dude...get a membership @ a gym, r u in school right now? meet a *TON* of people there or just go out and be social, it doesn't have to be a nightclub .
."I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
i agree with whitecloud
i know i do work out a at a gym, there isn't much people, i got some guys emails from work like 4 of them, i'm pretty social at work, and everybody says i'm the funniest guy alive!!! but when i talked to those guys online, and ask them what they are doin, they either don't respond, or they are like nothing's goin on and just sign off...
RaWBLooD
Master Don Juan
he might not be in school.Originally posted by white cloud 8
dude...get a membership @ a gym, r u in school right now? meet a *TON* of people there or just go out and be social, it doesn't have to be a nightclub
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Marlimus
Senior Don Juan
keep your head up, youngblood, we all feel down sometimes, I've been there. Just snap out of it and find ways to meet people.