I've moved out to a new city, it's been 2 months but i still haven't made any friends that i can call up to do something, it's just a bad nite... i'm feeling so down because it's 8pm, and i don't have anything to do, i'm 18 so goin out to a bar is out of question... and i used to go out to party every weekend before i moved here... i feel so depressed cuz i'm bored, and haven't parties in 2 months... i'm thinking of goin to these online dating sites rite now, but the only people who would be left to chat on a saturday nite would be losers anyways.. oh god, i'm gonna have to go rent a movie again and watch it....
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
bad nite
- Thread starter titoman
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
GSXR600
Don Juan
is there any 18 and over clubs where your at? Also craigslist is a good spot to find you some wingmen. Do you have any cool neibors, hang with them.
RaWBLooD
Master Don Juan
whats a craiglist????
most clubs are 19+ so u can see his dillema, unfortunately he has to wait till 19.
titoman i suggest tryin not to feel so down and just try to talk people at coffee shops and stuff, its not that hard, and if u jsut moved there and got no one near by, goin 2 gym u can make a good friend by spotting sum1.
its not likely youll have so many parties as where u lived before for a while, so make a trip up there every other month so u dont feel so alone.
yeah that's what i did a month ago rawblood, went down there to party lol... so i'm thinking of making that trip again...
by the way, is there anybody in a similar situation like mine, bored to death in a new place.. how do you deal with it???
by the way, is there anybody in a similar situation like mine, bored to death in a new place.. how do you deal with it???
white cloud 8
Senior Don Juan
dude...get a membership @ a gym, r u in school right now? meet a *TON* of people there or just go out and be social, it doesn't have to be a nightclub .
."Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
i agree with whitecloud
i know i do work out a at a gym, there isn't much people, i got some guys emails from work like 4 of them, i'm pretty social at work, and everybody says i'm the funniest guy alive!!! but when i talked to those guys online, and ask them what they are doin, they either don't respond, or they are like nothing's goin on and just sign off...
RaWBLooD
Master Don Juan
he might not be in school.Originally posted by white cloud 8
dude...get a membership @ a gym, r u in school right now? meet a *TON* of people there or just go out and be social, it doesn't have to be a nightclub
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Marlimus
Senior Don Juan
keep your head up, youngblood, we all feel down sometimes, I've been there. Just snap out of it and find ways to meet people.