Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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djaus111000

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hi guys
been following the forum for a while, and have definitely broken out of my AFC ways, except for temporary slips. Heres the situation - latest female prospect, an insecure HB8 has got me bad, ive used c&f made my self the prize and done everything right until tonight, she has made out with a friend of mine on several occasions, most recently about 10 months ago, but he can hve her around his little finger whenever he wants it, and anyways i got the feeling she was into him again, shes said nothing about it then tonight i just said - "you so want [my friend] again dont you" and she came back with a "yeh well sorta", if this wasn't bad enough, i then went onto tell her i didn't wanna see her hurt. BAD BAD BAD BAD BAD, help please, without telling me the obvious to next her
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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08aisaac

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Um like yeah that was pretty AFC but I guess there's nothing you can do but move on and not make the some mistake next time.
 

Jerky Boi

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Dude, if she's interested in your friend, then let it be. Find another chick and move on. You've already kinda messed things up with this girl. Your friend's got her and let him have her. There are tons of other (hotter) girls out there.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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redbyte

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Wow. This sounds like my situation right now.

I asked a chick to the formal. She said yes. Then she started dating and making out with my friend. Then they broke up. But hes a DJ, so he can have her whenever he wants. The other day my friend asked her if she wants him back and she "well .. yeah sorta".
If it was any other chick I would next her. But I asked her to the formal and she said yes. I found out later she actually wanted my friend to ask her. So I'm screwed.
Any tips on what to do?
 

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You tolerate these situations? That is only going to get you into more of them.

I don't tolerate this drama BS. I never get it either.
 

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this has happened to me a few times before,so i usely give them about 24 hours to come back to me and beg and plead to not be mad with them,or i next there sorry a**.When they do come back,i play with them a little bit to let them know i am the prize,and that they shouldnt do that again or you will be mad with them
 

redbyte

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Originally posted by LikRetsam
You tolerate these situations? That is only going to get you into more of them.

I don't tolerate this drama BS. I never get it either.
Ok, and for my situation, are you saying I should just tell her the formal is off? Thats rude.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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well i've sorted my situation out, didn't talk to her for a few days till she came crawling back then made sure she knew she didn't deserve me, now im just letting it slide and moving on, knowing i'm better than that
 

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that my friend is a chick test. a test that u handled pretty poorly i might add! first of all... u must assume she likes you b/c well.... who wouldnt second of all... if ur gunna be tlakin about who she likes , it better be somthing along the lines of " wow, you relaly like me dont you " . u shouldnt sell the idea that ur friend likes her : thats just wrong. neway dont let it bother u , tease her with attention and bust her balls and **** should end up allright
cheers :woo:
 

djaus111000

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thanks all for getting me through this, its made me a better DJ for sure
 
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