"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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djaus111000

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hi guys
been following the forum for a while, and have definitely broken out of my AFC ways, except for temporary slips. Heres the situation - latest female prospect, an insecure HB8 has got me bad, ive used c&f made my self the prize and done everything right until tonight, she has made out with a friend of mine on several occasions, most recently about 10 months ago, but he can hve her around his little finger whenever he wants it, and anyways i got the feeling she was into him again, shes said nothing about it then tonight i just said - "you so want [my friend] again dont you" and she came back with a "yeh well sorta", if this wasn't bad enough, i then went onto tell her i didn't wanna see her hurt. BAD BAD BAD BAD BAD, help please, without telling me the obvious to next her
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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08aisaac

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Um like yeah that was pretty AFC but I guess there's nothing you can do but move on and not make the some mistake next time.
 

Jerky Boi

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Dude, if she's interested in your friend, then let it be. Find another chick and move on. You've already kinda messed things up with this girl. Your friend's got her and let him have her. There are tons of other (hotter) girls out there.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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redbyte

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Wow. This sounds like my situation right now.

I asked a chick to the formal. She said yes. Then she started dating and making out with my friend. Then they broke up. But hes a DJ, so he can have her whenever he wants. The other day my friend asked her if she wants him back and she "well .. yeah sorta".
If it was any other chick I would next her. But I asked her to the formal and she said yes. I found out later she actually wanted my friend to ask her. So I'm screwed.
Any tips on what to do?
 

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You tolerate these situations? That is only going to get you into more of them.

I don't tolerate this drama BS. I never get it either.
 

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this has happened to me a few times before,so i usely give them about 24 hours to come back to me and beg and plead to not be mad with them,or i next there sorry a**.When they do come back,i play with them a little bit to let them know i am the prize,and that they shouldnt do that again or you will be mad with them
 

redbyte

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Originally posted by LikRetsam
You tolerate these situations? That is only going to get you into more of them.

I don't tolerate this drama BS. I never get it either.
Ok, and for my situation, are you saying I should just tell her the formal is off? Thats rude.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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djaus111000

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well i've sorted my situation out, didn't talk to her for a few days till she came crawling back then made sure she knew she didn't deserve me, now im just letting it slide and moving on, knowing i'm better than that
 

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that my friend is a chick test. a test that u handled pretty poorly i might add! first of all... u must assume she likes you b/c well.... who wouldnt second of all... if ur gunna be tlakin about who she likes , it better be somthing along the lines of " wow, you relaly like me dont you " . u shouldnt sell the idea that ur friend likes her : thats just wrong. neway dont let it bother u , tease her with attention and bust her balls and **** should end up allright
cheers :woo:
 

djaus111000

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thanks all for getting me through this, its made me a better DJ for sure
 
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