"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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bad AFC move, help

djaus111000

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hi guys
been following the forum for a while, and have definitely broken out of my AFC ways, except for temporary slips. Heres the situation - latest female prospect, an insecure HB8 has got me bad, ive used c&f made my self the prize and done everything right until tonight, she has made out with a friend of mine on several occasions, most recently about 10 months ago, but he can hve her around his little finger whenever he wants it, and anyways i got the feeling she was into him again, shes said nothing about it then tonight i just said - "you so want [my friend] again dont you" and she came back with a "yeh well sorta", if this wasn't bad enough, i then went onto tell her i didn't wanna see her hurt. BAD BAD BAD BAD BAD, help please, without telling me the obvious to next her
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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08aisaac

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Um like yeah that was pretty AFC but I guess there's nothing you can do but move on and not make the some mistake next time.
 

Jerky Boi

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Dude, if she's interested in your friend, then let it be. Find another chick and move on. You've already kinda messed things up with this girl. Your friend's got her and let him have her. There are tons of other (hotter) girls out there.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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redbyte

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Wow. This sounds like my situation right now.

I asked a chick to the formal. She said yes. Then she started dating and making out with my friend. Then they broke up. But hes a DJ, so he can have her whenever he wants. The other day my friend asked her if she wants him back and she "well .. yeah sorta".
If it was any other chick I would next her. But I asked her to the formal and she said yes. I found out later she actually wanted my friend to ask her. So I'm screwed.
Any tips on what to do?
 

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You tolerate these situations? That is only going to get you into more of them.

I don't tolerate this drama BS. I never get it either.
 

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this has happened to me a few times before,so i usely give them about 24 hours to come back to me and beg and plead to not be mad with them,or i next there sorry a**.When they do come back,i play with them a little bit to let them know i am the prize,and that they shouldnt do that again or you will be mad with them
 

redbyte

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Originally posted by LikRetsam
You tolerate these situations? That is only going to get you into more of them.

I don't tolerate this drama BS. I never get it either.
Ok, and for my situation, are you saying I should just tell her the formal is off? Thats rude.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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djaus111000

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well i've sorted my situation out, didn't talk to her for a few days till she came crawling back then made sure she knew she didn't deserve me, now im just letting it slide and moving on, knowing i'm better than that
 

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that my friend is a chick test. a test that u handled pretty poorly i might add! first of all... u must assume she likes you b/c well.... who wouldnt second of all... if ur gunna be tlakin about who she likes , it better be somthing along the lines of " wow, you relaly like me dont you " . u shouldnt sell the idea that ur friend likes her : thats just wrong. neway dont let it bother u , tease her with attention and bust her balls and **** should end up allright
cheers :woo:
 

djaus111000

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thanks all for getting me through this, its made me a better DJ for sure
 
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