"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Back on the prowl after 14 month monogamy. Seeking the missing keys

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Good on the reply about the first night sex. You must be good looking to get these kind of responses and quick interest. I haven't been getting sh!t on pof. Not even ogres or fatties. Only chicks that want simps to pay for pics and vids!
I am good looking. I still say I’m an 8. BUT a lot of it is your energy. No joke but years ago I didn’t get these kinds of responses. Just initial interest and then I lost them after the first message.

good news is: you can work on your energy by getting in touch with your core manly self and your kinks and desires
 

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This girl is trying to dictate the pace it seems. The fact is: she wanted monogamy, I said no, she said maybe we shouldn’t see each other. So I said “ok good luck” and moved on with my life. Then she texts me as if I’m obligated to her as if nothing had happened.
I’m ghosting till Wednesday or till she texts with something sensible.
 

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So the 7.5 rescheduled with me for new week. I’m dumbfounded why she’s still interested. I got my tip in her but by and large my d!ck has been dead whenever we get in bed together. We’ve tried 4 times. Pic attached
 

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Messaged my 50 year old fwb. She’s down to get fvcked tonight so we’ll see how that goes.

also had a lot of recent convos online that didn’t go anywhere. Overall feeling I need more girls because I only really have the one rn and that’s not a good and abundant place to be but I do what I gotta.
 

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So I spent the night. We fvcked about three times. It was ok. I’m already getting bored with her tho. Need a new girl
 

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Online interaction today:

me: Hey trouble

her: (she obviously read my profile) What is your definition of ethical non monogamy?

me: The same one as in google ;)

her: So a really deep seated belief system then Lol

I blocked her immediately
 

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You mind giving an idea of what your profile says. I want to copy it, and see if it helps.
I’m flattered.
This is for pof (haven’t had much success in there tho)
for my headline: Ethically non-monogamous

for my main write up:
Ethically non-monogamous. That said, I’m looking for a cool chill girl to go through life with
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Yeah she's a cutie. Too bad that one didn't go anywhere. I can't get past "Hey trouble". They see that, then delete the match/conversation.
Ah so this is the secret of game as I understand it:

You have to be congruent with who yo are. The words you say aren’t some magic spell, they are just a means to an end. Maybe you personally like to be less blunt or direct, in which case a different opener might suit you better and get you results.

what I do is read pua stuff and openers etc and find what I feel most connected with. Then I use that.

so for you, have you ever had conversations on online dating? If so, use the openers you used there.

If you dont already, I suggest you start a journal. I’ll try and help if you post convos and such.

first things first: make sure your online profile matches your true desires. I noticed you copied mine you said, don’t do that unless that is exactly what you want.
 

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It is. We're in the same boat as far as goals/motives. Looks maybe a part of it also. More good looking guys can get away with things others can't. I am going to keep trying the things you say, just to see. I messaged a 5 on pof, and plan to mirror your convo with the cutie. Just to see how it goes.
That’s a good idea. I often message a few girls with different things to see what works for me and what doesn’t based on my theory.

the 22 year old (who today said I’m the only man for her even tho she knows I fvck other women) I first messaged with “Hey baby” so I tried that recently but no luck.

I have noticed that cuter girls can often be more interested than uglier girls, like in my example above. BUT, perhaps the ASD is at play. I just don’t know how to play it slower without risking friendzone but I will work on it.
 

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I am starting to think you need to have a certain look in your pics to remain congruent with the straight to sex talk.
Maybe. But I never had these results years ago. Of course, I have worked on my style a bit and my energy is different than years ago. But my weight is the same.

in your example there tho, I would just next the girl. Don’t try to turn a girl looking for friends into a sex toy. Look for the sex toy and then you don’t waste time
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Noticing a weird phenomenon. Despite what conventional pua theory says, it seems like when I get interest from women, my plates begin to LOSE interest almost always leaving me with only one left. Then I end up with none, then I begin to get girls, the amount of girls interested in me increases, triggering the same phenomenon.

anyone else notice this?
 

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Messaged a girl online today. I’m trying a new opener “hey baby”

it got me quick sex with a few girls but it seems to be a bust compared to my usual “hey trouble”.

anyhow the girl I messaged says something like she doesn’t like pet names till I’ve earned them. To which I reply “I don’t do earnings” and she blocks me.

she was a poly girl. Seems they are often used to and expecting men to be pushovers. I wonder if I had fallen into her frame if things would have progressed.
 

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Since going straight to sex talk works for you. Maybe when she mentioned they help you sleep. You could have responded with "they're high in vitamin c too". Then segway into pineapples being high in vitamin c then to get sexual, bring up the jizz aspect of pineapples. Straight to the sex talk.
Yeah but I was trying to do conversation game as has been suggested to me. This is why I get frustrated because it seems like whenever I try something new I encounter a girl that I should use my same old game on.

Any how she blocked me so that’s that.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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