"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Back on the prowl after 14 month monogamy. Seeking the missing keys

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Good on the reply about the first night sex. You must be good looking to get these kind of responses and quick interest. I haven't been getting sh!t on pof. Not even ogres or fatties. Only chicks that want simps to pay for pics and vids!
I am good looking. I still say I’m an 8. BUT a lot of it is your energy. No joke but years ago I didn’t get these kinds of responses. Just initial interest and then I lost them after the first message.

good news is: you can work on your energy by getting in touch with your core manly self and your kinks and desires
 

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This girl is trying to dictate the pace it seems. The fact is: she wanted monogamy, I said no, she said maybe we shouldn’t see each other. So I said “ok good luck” and moved on with my life. Then she texts me as if I’m obligated to her as if nothing had happened.
I’m ghosting till Wednesday or till she texts with something sensible.
 

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So the 7.5 rescheduled with me for new week. I’m dumbfounded why she’s still interested. I got my tip in her but by and large my d!ck has been dead whenever we get in bed together. We’ve tried 4 times. Pic attached
 

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Messaged my 50 year old fwb. She’s down to get fvcked tonight so we’ll see how that goes.

also had a lot of recent convos online that didn’t go anywhere. Overall feeling I need more girls because I only really have the one rn and that’s not a good and abundant place to be but I do what I gotta.
 

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So I spent the night. We fvcked about three times. It was ok. I’m already getting bored with her tho. Need a new girl
 

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Online interaction today:

me: Hey trouble

her: (she obviously read my profile) What is your definition of ethical non monogamy?

me: The same one as in google ;)

her: So a really deep seated belief system then Lol

I blocked her immediately
 

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You mind giving an idea of what your profile says. I want to copy it, and see if it helps.
I’m flattered.
This is for pof (haven’t had much success in there tho)
for my headline: Ethically non-monogamous

for my main write up:
Ethically non-monogamous. That said, I’m looking for a cool chill girl to go through life with
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yeah she's a cutie. Too bad that one didn't go anywhere. I can't get past "Hey trouble". They see that, then delete the match/conversation.
Ah so this is the secret of game as I understand it:

You have to be congruent with who yo are. The words you say aren’t some magic spell, they are just a means to an end. Maybe you personally like to be less blunt or direct, in which case a different opener might suit you better and get you results.

what I do is read pua stuff and openers etc and find what I feel most connected with. Then I use that.

so for you, have you ever had conversations on online dating? If so, use the openers you used there.

If you dont already, I suggest you start a journal. I’ll try and help if you post convos and such.

first things first: make sure your online profile matches your true desires. I noticed you copied mine you said, don’t do that unless that is exactly what you want.
 

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It is. We're in the same boat as far as goals/motives. Looks maybe a part of it also. More good looking guys can get away with things others can't. I am going to keep trying the things you say, just to see. I messaged a 5 on pof, and plan to mirror your convo with the cutie. Just to see how it goes.
That’s a good idea. I often message a few girls with different things to see what works for me and what doesn’t based on my theory.

the 22 year old (who today said I’m the only man for her even tho she knows I fvck other women) I first messaged with “Hey baby” so I tried that recently but no luck.

I have noticed that cuter girls can often be more interested than uglier girls, like in my example above. BUT, perhaps the ASD is at play. I just don’t know how to play it slower without risking friendzone but I will work on it.
 

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I am starting to think you need to have a certain look in your pics to remain congruent with the straight to sex talk.
Maybe. But I never had these results years ago. Of course, I have worked on my style a bit and my energy is different than years ago. But my weight is the same.

in your example there tho, I would just next the girl. Don’t try to turn a girl looking for friends into a sex toy. Look for the sex toy and then you don’t waste time
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Noticing a weird phenomenon. Despite what conventional pua theory says, it seems like when I get interest from women, my plates begin to LOSE interest almost always leaving me with only one left. Then I end up with none, then I begin to get girls, the amount of girls interested in me increases, triggering the same phenomenon.

anyone else notice this?
 

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Messaged a girl online today. I’m trying a new opener “hey baby”

it got me quick sex with a few girls but it seems to be a bust compared to my usual “hey trouble”.

anyhow the girl I messaged says something like she doesn’t like pet names till I’ve earned them. To which I reply “I don’t do earnings” and she blocks me.

she was a poly girl. Seems they are often used to and expecting men to be pushovers. I wonder if I had fallen into her frame if things would have progressed.
 

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Since going straight to sex talk works for you. Maybe when she mentioned they help you sleep. You could have responded with "they're high in vitamin c too". Then segway into pineapples being high in vitamin c then to get sexual, bring up the jizz aspect of pineapples. Straight to the sex talk.
Yeah but I was trying to do conversation game as has been suggested to me. This is why I get frustrated because it seems like whenever I try something new I encounter a girl that I should use my same old game on.

Any how she blocked me so that’s that.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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