"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Back in the Game. First Question

blue_eyed_devil

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What happened to oral?

Especially from younger women?

You'd think there'd been an Oprah episode proclaiming that semen contains battery acid.

Five years ago, when I was working the market, first-night head was practically a given. I remember once speculating with a buddy of mine that it was a power play by the girl -- oral places her in control. It used to be MUCH harder to get laid than it was to get head; for me, anyway.

I have had 3 ONS's and two multiple-night stands since I've been single. But not one of them under the age of 30 - that's 4 of the 5 - gave head on that first night. The woman who was my age had no problem with it.

WTF has changed? Is this some new entitlement thing with the young'uns? What did I miss?

Are we back to the 80's again?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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2crudedudes

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I dunno, but my ex (and on and off FB) ain't letting my d*ck anywhere near her mouth. However, she still expects me to eat her out. To which I say: f*ck off. We'll bone, and that's it. Maybe that's why I haven't been getting laid so much in the past months :S
 

blue_eyed_devil

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That has been EXACTLY my experience with the younger ones. Total role reversal.

They must've circulated a memo or something.

This really sucks for me, because I enjoy going down, always have. It's like all the greedy douchebags and play-gangstas out there have tipped the scales and blown it (pun unintentional) for the rest of us. LAME.
 

exscall

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well i personally dont have any problem getting oral of most of my ons or first dates etc which are all young gorgeous women. Maybe your having a bad run or there is something not appealing about your penis.
 

blue_eyed_devil

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exscall said:
well i personally dont have any problem getting oral of most of my ons or first dates etc which are all young gorgeous women. Maybe your having a bad run or there is something not appealing about your penis.
Tonight went better. Maybe you're right; it was just a run of bad luck.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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