Back in the field again....

[Bingo-Player]

I'm 31 and I am done with the swipe apps , there's just utter trash nobody else wants on them and you will spend a tremendous amount of time and money supplicating to women you wouldn't even look twice at on the street

they are also full of hopless romantic types that think that your going to reenact some sort of rom com movie with them

I do most of my approaches in the gym , or in bars ..... some go well others won't give me the time of day ....it can be funny at times

In 2023 Your churn rate is going to be high , REALLY HIGH ........it can get super demoralising dealing with time waster after time waster and rejection after rejection ,

But then every so often you will run into some little sweetheart who just wants to get fvcked by you when this happens you can find yourself going on a nice little hot streak as women seem to have a sixth sense for when a man is getting pu$$y or not

In 2023 Its super easy to get burnt out with women , dating and pickup I treat it like shift work

I will do like 2 weeks on and then 2 weeks off

 

[Epimanes]

Interesting perspective @Bingo-Player...thanks man.

I appreciate the feedback... I'm so far behind in this **** I think I'm first.

Lol

 

[Ricky]

I wonder tho.... blaming our kids for abandonment when they decided to move with me cuz they didn't like new guy that came the month after we split. After we had been together 25yrs.He came to stay for a month too. Kids be wtf.... she moved and said she had to cuz they didn't want to be with her anymore so she moved to Quebec from BC. She doesn't even speak to her daughter anymore and only speaks to our son occasionally via text.

Maybe she isn't narc... but she was Also a closet alcoholic too... I didn't know. My daughter waa hiding it.. cleaning her up unbeknownst to me. Til I came home early one day and found her passed out with bottle in hand on hallway floor. She kept arms Reach and breadcrumbs her affections unless I had a few drinks too... she spiraled... I couldn't stop it... like trying to hold water in your hands.

I'm actually in therapy for some of the BS thay went on cuz she totally deflated me... constantly Threatned me with taking kids from me knowing I'd nvr leave my kids...eventually I was on depression meds... and going insane.. her mantra for sex was.. "you have to have consent, if you have to ask the answer is no, don't touch Me without permission it's abuse, sex has to happen naturally"

So.... I'm so reserved now.. it sucks. Tryin to undo that is fkn hard... hence therapy .. but can only afford to go once a month .. hate admitting I'm even doing therapy.. but... is what it is.

Sorry to hear. Ive done some therapy because someone else needed to be in therapy also but wouldnt (my wife)

things are a little better with my wife but i am back in the game anyways. I have no idea what she is really thinking and at this point i need to look out for myself and my daughter primarily because i now know the insanity she is capable of

 

[Augustus_McCrae]

I wonder tho.... blaming our kids for abandonment when they decided to move with me cuz they didn't like new guy that came the month after we split. After we had been together 25yrs.He came to stay for a month too. Kids be wtf.... she moved and said she had to cuz they didn't want to be with her anymore so she moved to Quebec from BC. She doesn't even speak to her daughter anymore and only speaks to our son occasionally via text.

Maybe she isn't narc... but she was Also a closet alcoholic too... I didn't know. My daughter waa hiding it.. cleaning her up unbeknownst to me. Til I came home early one day and found her passed out with bottle in hand on hallway floor. She kept arms Reach and breadcrumbs her affections unless I had a few drinks too... she spiraled... I couldn't stop it... like trying to hold water in your hands.

I'm actually in therapy for some of the BS thay went on cuz she totally deflated me... constantly Threatned me with taking kids from me knowing I'd nvr leave my kids...eventually I was on depression meds... and going insane.. her mantra for sex was.. "you have to have consent, if you have to ask the answer is no, don't touch Me without permission it's abuse, sex has to happen naturally"

So.... I'm so reserved now.. it sucks. Tryin to undo that is fkn hard... hence therapy .. but can only afford to go once a month .. hate admitting I'm even doing therapy.. but... is what it is.

You probably already realize it, but you were emotionally abused by her. It’s good that you’re seeing a therapist, I hope it’s a good one.

Common law marriage after two years? The more I learn about Canada, the more it sounds like a feminist h*ll.

If there are any meet ups in your area, you might want to try them. It’s a good, casual, low pressure way to meet people.

-Augustus-

 

[Epimanes]

@Augustus_McCrae

Hey man.. thanks. Yep.. my therapist seems to be a good one so far. Bringing me back to me again. Helping me trust and recognize my gut feelings. My main story of the BS of my marriage is in another thread though.

Yup.. I know I was emotionally abused. I am working at undoing my programming. Its terrible. I was no saint either though and I recognize that also. Most of my behavior inside the marriage was reactive to her neglect and abuse which was also abusive in return. Not proud of some of the shyt that went down.

The meet up app has stuff here too yes. Thought about a singles cruise too l, just because I have never done anything before.

Side note. I have had a couple dates in OLD recently.. met a couple nice ladies. But I didn't escalate due to my stupid programming from my ex wife. I stay in gentleman mode ... be kind and friendly.

I am also tryin to just make banter with random ladies in passing on my commute. Yesterday this cute chick at the flower shop I walk by every day was watering the flowers. She had a hose and it was hot out. She was obviously way too young for me. Anyways I commented l "oh time for a water gun fight huh?"... she laughed

Then last night my son works at the local liquor store and I was walking home from transit. I seen my son on his break in the back. So I walked up to him and playfully threatened him. This dude came out and was all.. "everything ok".. my son replied yep... just messing around with my Dad. Turns out the dude is the bartender of the pub next to the liquor store. We shook hands and he said my son's a great worker.

I went home and changed and went back. Hung around til my son was done his shift and had a few beers with him. He just turned 19 so he had never had a beer in the bar before.

Some lady came over and was leaning on the bar next to me waiting to get the bartenders attention and Saya to me "the bar tender is a hard guy to get a hold of" I was like naa.. he's not and called him over by his name. She looked surprised and we bantered about the WHL game that was on. .. she told me her friends son is on the Winnipeg team. She was kinda cute and more my age. I ended up buying her a shot before she left. I didn't ask for number though. But the interaction was fun.

I'm working at getting out of this fvcking shell... its a slow process though.

 

[2rings]

Yeah I heard Canada is hard with the feminists. Feminism is undoubtedly a killjoy, I can validate you that much. It is baffling why any females fall into the feminist traps.

Thanks for sharing your position and I think that you will bounce back soon.

 

[Epimanes]

Yeah I heard Canada is hard with the feminists. Feminism is undoubtedly a killjoy, I can validate you that much. It is baffling why any females fall into the feminist traps.

Thanks for sharing your position and I think that you will bounce back soon.

Thanks man... appreciate the sentiment.