"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Babysitter excuse

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Met up with a chick I knew last week and banged her on the first date. This coming weekend my friends and I are going to a local island to kayak and chill on the beach. I texted the chick told her she was free to tag along. She hit me with "if I can find a babysitter, I'd love to go".

Never been told that before so I'm wondering what the chances are that this is a flake line or if she's being legit. Chick has a week to figure it out.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sounds legit to me. Remember, babysitters are typically young girls or women, and they can be just as flaky about jobs as they are with dating. Even if she has one set up now, there is always the chance of her cancelling or no-showing.
 
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Bible_Belt said:
Sounds legit to me. Remember, babysitters are typically young girls or women, and they can be just as flaky about jobs as they are with dating. Even if she has one set up now, there is always the chance of her cancelling or no-showing.
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Yes, many young girls put more value on their dating and social event life than earning a few bucks watching someone else’s kids…
 
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She’s saying that she has a kid and that her coming out depends on the babysitter.

Why go after a single mom?
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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